“Faithful” isn’t the most exciting of words. It’s kind of boring. You won’t read of a Nicholas Sparks’ hero telling his girlfriend, “I just want to be faithful to you my entire life.”
A movie won’t raise a crescendo of music as one lover tells another, “You’re so faithful. So faithful.”
We relish and cry on expressions of feeling and sentiment, not promises of commitment.
Look, I love sentiment as much as anyone, but if I want to experience a truly sacred marriage, I’ve got to step out of my culture and learn to value faithfulness over sentiment.
Consider how the book of Hebrews exalts faithfulness. The writer says that Jesus “was faithful to the one who appointed him, just as Moses also ‘was faithful in all God’s house.’” (3:1-2)
God has appointed me to be my wife’s spouse. God has entrusted me with His daughter. As a Christian, more than I want to experience anything else in this life, I should want to experience being found faithful. “Now Moses was faithful in all God’s house as a servant… Christ…was faithful over God’s house as a son.” (3:5-6)
This doesn’t sound “sexy.” You’ll never see a Cosmopolitan cover proclaiming, “Ten New Ways to Be Found Faithful!” But if I take my walking orders from Scripture my heart should be focused, my mind should be fixed, and my will should be settled on being a faithful husband.
What does it mean to be faithful?
Think of yourself as a “house manager.” If a manager notices a small leak in the roof but never checks it out, when the owner discovers rot has set in the manager won’t be considered “faithful.” He’ll be considered negligent. Being faithful means more than just showing up. It means being engaged, interested, taking initiative, moving toward my spouse, and serving my spouse. When a husband or wife is struggling or in need of support, a faithful spouse takes notice and steps in to help.
If you care at all about eternity, then know this: you’ll never hear Jesus say, “Well done my good and infatuated servant!” What will we hear?
“Well done my good and faithful servant.”
This week, focus on your faithfulness. How faithful are you? Are you there for your spouse? Can your spouse count on you? Are you fully engaged in your marriage? Are you taking care of your spouse emotionally, relationally, spiritually, and physically? If you look at your marriage through the prism of God entrusting the care of His son or daughter to you, would He say you’ve been a faithful steward?
A special note: this week marks the release of the new and updated version of Sacred Marriage: What if God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? If you’ve been waiting to check out this book, now is the perfect time.