A friend of mine started saving for his wife’s wedding ring from the time he was in his mid-teens. He didn’t save much, of course. Sometimes he’d put just five or ten dollars in a jar. That isn’t enough to clean most wedding rings, much less purchase a high-quality diamond, but the amount wasn’t really the point. Every time he put money in the jar, he prayed for his future wife.
“Lord, keep her heart pure.”
“Lord, help her draw near to you today.”
“Lord, help me become the kind of man she’ll want to marry.”
And what do you think it meant to his future wife when she found out he had been saving for her ring and praying for her before he even knew her?
That’s right. She felt like the luckiest women in the world.
One of the many things I like about this is that it encourages young men to begin thinking about marriage now, to start praying for their wives even before they know who their wives are, and to literally start caring for their wives even before they meet them.
I love this.
So, guys, it’s not about the amount as much as it’s about the intent, and the prayer, and the thoughtfulness. You’re starting to save up—a good, responsible, thing to do. You’re setting a pattern of looking at a woman as someone you want to prepare for and care for and pray for. Perhaps you’re even denying yourself a little treat in order to have something left over to put in that jar (or bank account). Even better!
Just start saving now. Let the financial cost of the wedding ring prepare your spiritual heart and mind, bending it toward marriage, toward responsibility, toward a God honoring life.
I know women will want to ask me, “Can’t we do the same thing, and save up for our husband’s ring?”
Sure. It’s just that my wedding ring cost Lisa less than a hundred bucks. You can start saving two weeks before the wedding and come up with that, but maybe guys’ rings cost more now.
What age do I think is appropriate to teach this? I’m not a professional counselor, but I’m thinking middle school—say, the 8th grade—sounds like a reasonable age to start a young man down this road.
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