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April 9, 2016

Dysfunction is a Choice

Gary Thomas — 

Statistics can be terrifying. If a boy’s dad was abusive or unfaithful to his wife, the chances are overwhelmingly higher that he will grow up to be an abuser or to cheat on his wife. If a woman isn’t nurtured by her mom and was raised by an addict, she is far more likely to […]

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It’s a sobering thought, but it’s true: once a romantic relationship gets started between two believers there are only one of two options—you’re going to get married or you’re going to break up. Breakups are of course far more common, and January in particular is a huge month for relationship breakups so what are the […]

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November 19, 2015

Make Me Laugh

Gary Thomas — 

As we enter the holidays, here’s something to think about to inject new life into your marriage and family: Laugh together. Think about how to make each other laugh uproariously. Life is tough. Things get serious. If we stop laughing part of us dies. In a very real sense, to stop laughing is to stop […]

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October 24, 2015

Please Don’t Marry Him

Gary Thomas — 

My heart is grieving. I’ve received several Facebook messages from women who asked my advice about a dysfunctional dating relationship when The Sacred Search first came out several years ago. Each one noticed several “red flags” in their dating relationship and asked me if I thought they should be concerned. In every case, the answer […]

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I used to love eating Krispy Kreme doughnuts. They tasted so good—until thirty minutes later, they sunk into my stomach like the batch of fried dough that they are. I paid the price for those thirty seconds of delight (and am still trying to run off the pleasures of my youth). We all have foods […]

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 Is It Selling Out to Marry Someone I’m Not Infatuated With? By Debra K. Fileta, M.A., LPC I’ve been dating this wonderful girl for about two months now. She has everything that I’m looking for, including my core values (born again, conservative, doesn’t drink, wants to strive for purity, etc.) And she is gorgeous! What […]

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Melissa had dated Jason for five years. “He’s a pretty good guy,” Melissa said. “He has most of the qualities you talked about tonight.” There’s usually a “but” when someone starts out like that, and here it was: “I was concerned about his relationship with his mom and family—she always came first. I’m not sure […]

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March 19, 2015

Bachelor Disaster

Gary Thomas — 

It was almost as painful as watching a man slowly bleed to death; instead, I was watching a marriage die before it had even begun. The Bachelor wanted to be known as a good guy. He was in a ridiculous and silly situation (trying to artificially choose a wife while simultaneously dating 25) but even […]

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February 12, 2015

50 Problems with Grey

Gary Thomas — 

A Husband’s Random Thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey I’m not into creating lists of “do’s” and “don’ts” that aren’t in Scripture. If anything, the Bible is relatively silent about such lists within marriage. It’s not my intent to disparage any appropriate act that a husband and wife enjoy in their private moments. Yet every […]

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If you jump in water, you’re going to get wet. If you watch The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, you’re going to hear someone say, “I just need to explore my feelings for him/her…” No, you don’t. Exploring your feelings is sort of like checking out the tide—it changes throughout the day, and what it is […]

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