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Having a net worth of nearly two billion dollars, American investor Howard Marks is a fan of poker and other games that combine skill and chance. He writes an occasional investment letter and in a recent one talks about what he’s learned from reading Annie Duke’s Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t […]

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There is very little reasoned, biblical perspective when it comes to evaluating physical attraction in dating and marriage. Debra Fileta does a wonderful job of pointing out our culture’s weaknesses in this regard and helping us find the “more excellent way” of Scripture. If you’re single, you need this perspective to help you make a […]

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December 5, 2019

The Bare Marriage Project

Guest Author — 

I spent my honeymoon night in tears—because sex hurt. A lot. I had no idea what was wrong with me. It wasn’t supposed to be this painful! But I was married now, and I believed my husband needed sex and I had been taught that he wouldn’t feel love without it. So over the next […]

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November 20, 2019

Walk Away in Ministry

Gary Thomas — 

When we started the “Walk Away” series, we highlighted the 41 citations in the Gospels where Jesus walked away from someone or let someone walk away from him. Last week, we looked at numerous examples from the life of Paul. This week we’re picking up another deleted (for space) chapter excerpt from When to Walk […]

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I like giving and receiving gifts. My wife Lisa doesn’t. In my young stupid pride, I used to double down on gift giving opportunities, find something really creative to give to Lisa, perhaps a bit too expensive for our current budget and Lisa would be touched and moved but feel guilty that I was (in […]

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October 23, 2019

She Married Him Anyway

Gary Thomas — 

A recent news article caught my eye: a would-be bride caught her soon-to-be husband sexually assaulting an inebriated bridesmaid the day before the wedding. What astonished me even more was the last sentence of the article: friends of the couple “confirmed” that the ceremony went on as planned… My heart rejoices at the healing and […]

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The point of walking away from toxic people is to walk toward reliable people, hopefully those whom God has supernaturally appointed to be touched in a special and powerful way, and who will be faithful to, in turn, reach others. It can sound arrogant to think that our time is so important or that we […]

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After I had been hitting my head against a wall dealing with a toxic individual, asking myself “Why?” and “How do I fix this/handle this/deal with this?” a wise friend, Dr. Steve Wilke, dispensed some life-changing advice. He urged me not to deal with it but to simply walk away. “I want you to go […]

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August 16, 2019

Supernatural Counsel

Gary Thomas — 

When a couple you love is going through a marital crisis, both spouses giving you two entirely different accounts of what is happening and begging you for your insight… When a child has prayed and prayed and God hasn’t seemed to answer that prayer and they ask you what to do… When your spouse needs […]

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One of the kindest words God has ever spoken to me is the word “no.” One of God’s most effective tools to preserve my freedom and keep me out of spiritual slavery is when God says, “Don’t.” Spoken by a supremely loving, all-wise, heavenly father who wants me to enjoy the abundant life, “no” and […]

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