Archives For marriage

         There are two questions we can ask within marriage that will take us to two entirely different dimensions. We have to choose in which dimension we want to live. The two questions are these:             “How can I bless you?”             Or:             “How can I get my own way?”             If we live in […]

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    (This is a guest post written by a good friend of mine, Dr. Steve Wilke. You can visit his ministry page at: www.sonkist.com )   While taping an upcoming vlog, my friend Gary Thomas and I discussed abuse in marriage. Sadly, its impact is far more pervasive than most would like to admit. […]

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  Just two hours a week.  That’s all it takes to affair-proof and divorce-proof your marriage. After years of reading, writing, and speaking on marriage, and a few less years doing some pastoral counseling, I’ve identified two things that, when they are in place, can almost guarantee that your spouse won’t have an affair and […]

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  A friend of mine started saving for his wife’s wedding ring from the time he was in his mid-teens. He didn’t save much, of course. Sometimes he’d put just five or ten dollars in a jar. That isn’t enough to clean most wedding rings, much less purchase a high-quality diamond, but the amount wasn’t […]

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April 10, 2014

Hard Truth

Gary Thomas — 

  “The truth is, you’re committing fraud.” Melissa let the words go and then flinched, waiting for her husband’s response. Grant called his bookkeeping practices “creative tax policy” and wanted his wife’s approval. Melissa couldn’t give it. Nor should she have. Most of us were raised in a culture that views “friendship” as making people […]

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April 7, 2014

God Oases

Gary Thomas — 

Up until I wrote this blog post, only two people, other than Lisa and me, knew this story, and one of them is dead. Lisa and I had been married for just a couple months. There was a spiritual crisis of sorts, not threatening our marriage, but freaking us out. We went and visited my […]

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March 31, 2014

The Ultimate Prenup

Gary Thomas — 

One of my best friends (and co-author with me on the Sacred Search Couple’s Conversation Guide), Dr. Steve Wilke, once shocked a church when they asked him about pre-nuptial agreements before marriage. They all expected him, as a Christian writer and speaker and counselor, to come out strongly against them. He began by saying, “I’m […]

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March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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March 18, 2014

The Ballet is Woman

Gary Thomas — 

There’s a saying that “the ballet is woman.” Male dancers recognize that their role is all about showcasing the female dancer’s beauty. In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker (who recently put together a documentary on the New York City Ballet), “When a male dancer is paired with a ballerina he can support, stabilize, lift […]

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Lisa and I are familiar with landing in Houston and being immediately slapped by the heat as soon as we step off a plane, so it wasn’t a surprise when Guantanamo Bay welcomed us with the same courtesy. We were met by the chaplain, Baron Miller, who informed us that we were lucky to be […]

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