Archives For marriage

Over 114 million people watched this year’s Super Bowl. Less than a hundred people actually played in it. That’s an infinitesimal percent which closely mirrors, I would guess, the percentage of average marriages to truly intimate marriages. It’s one thing to watch, it’s another thing entirely to play. Far too many couples merely “watch” their […]

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While reading a wonderful book on marriage, I came across some spectacular advice that would be very harmful in one of the marriages I’ve worked with: “I learned that the most romantic gesture I can offer Christi is simply asking about her day, how she’s feeling, and what’s going on in her heart and mind.” […]

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If you jump in water, you’re going to get wet. If you watch The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, you’re going to hear someone say, “I just need to explore my feelings for him/her…” No, you don’t. Exploring your feelings is sort of like checking out the tide—it changes throughout the day, and what it is […]

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January 20, 2015

From Fiasco to Fine

Gary Thomas — 

The word “fiasco,” something that is considered a complete failure, was born in Italy. Literally, it means to “make a bottle,” or “make a wine glass.” It can have a fascinating connection to marriage. Some of you may recall that my Italian publisher invited Lisa and me to Italy in December to speak at a […]

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What if God makes “art” out of our moments of brokenness, sin, mistakes, and even marital disasters? Joe White is president of Kanakuk Kamps and founder of Kids Across America. He uses a word picture that I’ve found rather moving. He begins by saying that none of God’s “paintings” are on canvas. “They’re all made […]

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January 13, 2015

Give Her Wings

Guest Author — 

Guest post by: Megan D. Cox Abuse is rampant these days, and more, and more teachers, churches, and counselors are realizing that it is a deep problem, right now in the Body of Christ. How do we deal with it? How do we help women who are going through it? How do we manage our […]

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  Guest post by Sandy Ralya.. Have you ever been desperate for a breakthrough in your marriage? I mean, the if-something-doesn’t-change-soon-I-don’t-think-I-can-go-on kind of breakthrough? Married at nineteen, I didn’t have a clue about how to deal with the emotional, verbal, and spiritual abuse I suffered. When my husband and I drove through our local McDonald’s, […]

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“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed. “We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life. My husband has just been awful. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.” You could have served […]

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Most married couples spend a good bit of time thinking, “How can we draw closer to each other?” Sometimes, we need to step back and ask a more fundamental question: “How can we encourage each other to get closer to God?” Doing that will help you get closer to each other. Spirituality isn’t the paint […]

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Some of you have warm, fun, and loving extended families. I’m so grateful for the extended family God gave to Lisa and me on both sides. But many of you are about to spend a special holiday with a family that makes you prepare like you’re going into combat. Whether you love your extended family […]

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