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One of my close friends, Dr. Mike Dittman, recently challenged me with a profound statement: “Gary,” he said, “God doesn’t care about shells; He cares about the people in the shells.” Mike was referring to churches, but let’s apply this to marriage. Keep in mind, Mike is ardently pro-local church. His ministry is singularly focused […]

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March 19, 2015

Bachelor Disaster

Gary Thomas — 

It was almost as painful as watching a man slowly bleed to death; instead, I was watching a marriage die before it had even begun. The Bachelor wanted to be known as a good guy. He was in a ridiculous and silly situation (trying to artificially choose a wife while simultaneously dating 25) but even […]

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Before you read any further, think of the three best artists of all time: any country, any century, any medium. Got them in mind? I’ll bet ninety percent of you thought of Michelangelo. It might surprise you that Michelangelo thought of himself in rather limited terms. There remains only one truly famous Michelangelo painting (the […]

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I’m fully aware that my books may not seem as practical as other marriage books, or that that this blog doesn’t always dish out the very helpful “how-to” tips that so many other blogs focus on. It makes me a bit insecure at times; I could sound lost in the clouds to many people, like […]

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  Marriage is a gift – an amazing blessing from God.  Yet often the greatest gifts in life are not always cherished the way they should be.  Maybe because life gets busy, or we get hurried and distracted. Maybe because we start to take one another for granted.  Or we disagree and let resentments hang […]

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February 17, 2015

The Watch Dog Fights

Gary Thomas — 

“The watch dog fights while the wild dog runs away.” When danger confronts a wild dog, the wild dog runs away. It’s not tied to the home because in its heart, it doesn’t have one; it’s tied solely to its own self-interests. When danger confronts a watch dog, the watch dog doubles down, as if […]

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February 12, 2015

50 Problems with Grey

Gary Thomas — 

A Husband’s Random Thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey I’m not into creating lists of “do’s” and “don’ts” that aren’t in Scripture. If anything, the Bible is relatively silent about such lists within marriage. It’s not my intent to disparage any appropriate act that a husband and wife enjoy in their private moments. Yet every […]

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Over 114 million people watched this year’s Super Bowl. Less than a hundred people actually played in it. That’s an infinitesimal percent which closely mirrors, I would guess, the percentage of average marriages to truly intimate marriages. It’s one thing to watch, it’s another thing entirely to play. Far too many couples merely “watch” their […]

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While reading a wonderful book on marriage, I came across some spectacular advice that would be very harmful in one of the marriages I’ve worked with: “I learned that the most romantic gesture I can offer Christi is simply asking about her day, how she’s feeling, and what’s going on in her heart and mind.” […]

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If you jump in water, you’re going to get wet. If you watch The Bachelor or The Bachelorette, you’re going to hear someone say, “I just need to explore my feelings for him/her…” No, you don’t. Exploring your feelings is sort of like checking out the tide—it changes throughout the day, and what it is […]

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