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It was chilling when I read a book written three decades ago that quoted a (now dead) author who said, “The problem with Christians today is that nobody wants to kill them.” No Christian writer would dare utter those words today. Jesus’ prophecy is now all too true, worldwide: “Then they will hand you over […]

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 Is It Selling Out to Marry Someone I’m Not Infatuated With? By Debra K. Fileta, M.A., LPC I’ve been dating this wonderful girl for about two months now. She has everything that I’m looking for, including my core values (born again, conservative, doesn’t drink, wants to strive for purity, etc.) And she is gorgeous! What […]

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May 26, 2015

I Was Born for This!

Gary Thomas — 

  “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  (Prov. 17:17) You’d be miserable indeed if you trained to become a fireman and resented it every time there was a fire. Not that you want there to be a fire, but putting out fires is what you’re trained to do. […]

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  Let me begin this post by sharing a common dilemma of life. How we resolve this dilemma will either serve or assault family intimacy. This account comes from a book that I highly recommend (Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown) A woman named Cynthia once told me a story about the […]

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May 16, 2015

Get Closer

Gary Thomas — 

Jorge was a typical soft middle-aged man when he got a taste for endurance sports. Within a year, he was absorbed in it. His body became chiseled, his weekends and evenings consumed with various competitions. His topic of conversation centered around training and times. Even his circle of friends gravitated toward those sharing the same […]

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May 6, 2015

Despair or Depend

Gary Thomas — 

  “I’m done with this marriage, Gary. It has exhausted me, and I don’t have what it takes to make it work.” Though they didn’t realize it, Alice and her husband Ian were on the precipice of a really good place, perhaps even a divinely ordered one. Sometimes, God has to take us to the […]

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To celebrate each other regularly during a lifelong love, you have to get creative with a lot of presents. If I get my wife just two things for Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, her birthday, our anniversary, and Christmas, that’s ten distinct presents a year, which means over the course of 30 years I’ve had to […]

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April 27, 2015

The Jairus Life

Gary Thomas — 

Family makes pain personal.  Very personal. The pain might be erupting from your marriage; it might be related to the welfare (spiritual or physical) of a child. If it’s family the pain you feel focuses on you like a doctor using a laser beam during eye surgery. You want it gone. But, that pain can […]

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When we talk about marital killers, the default mode is to discuss lust and affairs, substance abuse, physical violence, busyness, poor priorities, and financial stress. Fair enough. But there’s another killer of marital happiness that gets far too little press. I want to put a spotlight on it in today’s post. Negative thinking can be […]

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April 17, 2015

Hating Love

Gary Thomas — 

The most damaging instance of “identity theft” is when hate masquerades as love. I see it all the time, particularly in dating relationships. A young man “falls in love” with a woman, woos her until he has monopolized her social calendar and then weeks or months later, drops her. Once she has abandoned everything for […]

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