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When we talk about marital killers, the default mode is to discuss lust and affairs, substance abuse, physical violence, busyness, poor priorities, and financial stress. Fair enough. But there’s another killer of marital happiness that gets far too little press. I want to put a spotlight on it in today’s post. Negative thinking can be […]

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“Why is it always on us?” The leader of the wives’ study group looked at Lisa and me, explaining that after reading numerous books on marriage together, it always seemed to come down to the wives being the ones to set the relationship right. All of these women had read many books on marriage. At […]

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Some of you brush the teeth of your own worst enemy, every day. This blog is focused on marriage and family life, but knowing how God sees you is central to your ability to love as a spouse or parent. Some of you are so hard on yourselves you’ve essentially become an enemy to your […]

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Before you read any further, think of the three best artists of all time: any country, any century, any medium. Got them in mind? I’ll bet ninety percent of you thought of Michelangelo. It might surprise you that Michelangelo thought of himself in rather limited terms. There remains only one truly famous Michelangelo painting (the […]

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I’m fully aware that my books may not seem as practical as other marriage books, or that that this blog doesn’t always dish out the very helpful “how-to” tips that so many other blogs focus on. It makes me a bit insecure at times; I could sound lost in the clouds to many people, like […]

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February 17, 2015

The Watch Dog Fights

Gary Thomas — 

“The watch dog fights while the wild dog runs away.” When danger confronts a wild dog, the wild dog runs away. It’s not tied to the home because in its heart, it doesn’t have one; it’s tied solely to its own self-interests. When danger confronts a watch dog, the watch dog doubles down, as if […]

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January 20, 2015

From Fiasco to Fine

Gary Thomas — 

The word “fiasco,” something that is considered a complete failure, was born in Italy. Literally, it means to “make a bottle,” or “make a wine glass.” It can have a fascinating connection to marriage. Some of you may recall that my Italian publisher invited Lisa and me to Italy in December to speak at a […]

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What if God makes “art” out of our moments of brokenness, sin, mistakes, and even marital disasters? Joe White is president of Kanakuk Kamps and founder of Kids Across America. He uses a word picture that I’ve found rather moving. He begins by saying that none of God’s “paintings” are on canvas. “They’re all made […]

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“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed. “We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life. My husband has just been awful. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.” You could have served […]

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Most married couples spend a good bit of time thinking, “How can we draw closer to each other?” Sometimes, we need to step back and ask a more fundamental question: “How can we encourage each other to get closer to God?” Doing that will help you get closer to each other. Spirituality isn’t the paint […]

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