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December 23, 2015

Make God Happy

Gary Thomas — 

“So we make it our goal to please Him…” 2 Corinthians 5:9 The large woman wearing a maid’s uniform walked into my hotel room and breathed a sigh of relief. “Why, it’s already almost clean!” she said. “And it smells good, too!” Before this encounter (years ago), I never thought of what those who clean […]

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November 19, 2015

Make Me Laugh

Gary Thomas — 

As we enter the holidays, here’s something to think about to inject new life into your marriage and family: Laugh together. Think about how to make each other laugh uproariously. Life is tough. Things get serious. If we stop laughing part of us dies. In a very real sense, to stop laughing is to stop […]

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“How do I endure being married to someone who isn’t as strong of a believer as I am?” This is a frequent question, most often asked by wives. John Wesley, the renowned 18th century teacher and founder of Methodism, might suggest you are in a particularly fruitful spiritual condition able to grow in ways you […]

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October 24, 2015

Please Don’t Marry Him

Gary Thomas — 

My heart is grieving. I’ve received several Facebook messages from women who asked my advice about a dysfunctional dating relationship when The Sacred Search first came out several years ago. Each one noticed several “red flags” in their dating relationship and asked me if I thought they should be concerned. In every case, the answer […]

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How to Have an Increasingly Happy Marriage One of my favorite teachers of Scripture is in the midst of a series on what makes us happy. Near the beginning of one sermon he (correctly, in my view) challenged those Christians who say, “What if God wants you to be holy instead of happy?” Since the […]

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In Sacred Marriage I tell an old rabbinical story, but as I reworked the book for the new edition, I realized I may have originally missed one of the main points. Let me re-tell it with that point made more clearly. There’s an old rabbinical story about how the spot was chosen for God’s holy […]

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September 1, 2015

The Only Man in the World

Gary Thomas — 

Women, the door to true happiness in marriage—the key to becoming the most pleased and happiest of wives—is to begin viewing your husband as Adam, the only man in the world. When you get married, you agree (consciously or not) to a “commitment of contentment.” You forever reset the boundaries for what makes you content. […]

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Victoria (not her real name) is married to a selfish spouse. She prays for him. She encourages him. She seeks ways to serve him. Her husband soaks it up but hasn’t learned to give half as much in return. If I give examples I may blow her cover, but most of you know marriages like […]

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“Faithful” isn’t the most exciting of words. It’s kind of boring. You won’t read of a Nicholas Sparks’ hero telling his girlfriend, “I just want to be faithful to you my entire life.” A movie won’t raise a crescendo of music as one lover tells another, “You’re so faithful. So faithful.” We relish and cry […]

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“Parenting” begins with something we call “labor” and the work never ends for at least two decades. In many ways, “parenting” and “working” are synonyms. You can’t stop being a parent when your kids are young, so how can the two of you possibly enjoy a Sabbath? Unless you have a nanny, you obviously can’t […]

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