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Lisa and I were at a women’s conference when Lisa asked the wife sitting next to her how she had slept the night before. “Terrible,” she replied. “I’m used to my husband’s backrub every night and it’s hard to get to sleep without it.” “Every night?” Lisa asked. “Every night.” Plenty of these blog posts […]

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November 20, 2017

The Marriage Saver

Gary Thomas — 

There is one thing that could save you thousands of dollars in marital counseling. It can turn a frustrating marriage into a delightful one. It can turn a barren marriage into a fruitful one. It can turn a hurtful marriage into an encouraging one. Indeed, if we will more earnestly pursue this one spiritual truth […]

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November 14, 2017

Self-Obsession and Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Your marriage isn’t about you. It’s not even about your marriage. Ultimately, your marriage is about proclaiming the power and glory of Jesus Christ. The problem for most of us is the bent of our lives. Christianity is an extreme religion, but we try to live it in the margins. Jesus said to love the […]

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Would you like to be particularly happy in your marriage? Do you want the security of knowing that no matter what happens the two of you will face the future together, and that nothing will tear you apart? Do you want the feeling of being truly and finally married—no doubts, no re-evaluations, no “what-ifs,” just […]

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September 7, 2017

For Worse

Gary Thomas — 

A woman from a war-torn country told an American, “The difference between Americans and the rest of the world is that you expect everything to go fine and are surprised when something bad happens. The rest of the world expects life to be dreary and is surprised when something good happens.” I don’t know about […]

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My son is getting two masters’ degrees at Harvard. Lisa says I shouldn’t tell people that because it sounds like I’m bragging but it’s relevant to the point I’m about to make, so please forgive me. Graham was visiting during a vacation and I noticed he was reading a pretty lengthy history book that didn’t […]

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A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when he lays out what he calls the “tough love truths” to the future bride (why he picks the bride for this, I’m not sure). During this session, David tells the woman that sometime […]

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July 20, 2017

A Higher Kind of Love

Gary Thomas — 

  About five centuries ago, Copernicus changed the way we think about our universe when he postulated what we all now know to be true: the Sun, not the Earth, is the center of our universe. Archimedes, Plato, Socrates, Augustine, and Aquinas all lived without understanding a basic truth that any educated person today takes […]

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Before being appointed commissioner of Major League Baseball in 1989, Bart Giamatti already had an impressive resume as a professor of English Renaissance Literature and president of Yale University. Unfortunately, his tenure as commissioner of Major League Baseball was cut painfully short when he died of a heart attack just five months into his service. […]

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Preachers and teachers on marriage (and I have been among them) often warn young moms about being moms first and wives second. It’s certainly a dangerous and ever-present temptation that deserves attention. But this post is for the young husbands who have their own temptation—expecting their wives to be more than any one woman could […]

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