Archives For divorce

This blog is not written for women in abusive marriages. The advice offered in these posts will challenge both husbands and wives, but the advice could be counter-productive if it is applied in an abusive relationship. In my last post I talked about “functional fixedness,” addressing the question, “What if your husband isn’t motivated by […]

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February 6, 2016

Why Men Don’t Change

Gary Thomas — 

This blog is not written for women in abusive marriages. The advice offered in these posts will challenge both husbands and wives, but the advice could be counter-productive if it is applied in an abusive relationship. What if your husband isn’t motivated by your pain? What if he’s only motivated by his? Many wives live […]

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One of my close friends, Dr. Mike Dittman, recently challenged me with a profound statement: “Gary,” he said, “God doesn’t care about shells; He cares about the people in the shells.” Mike was referring to churches, but let’s apply this to marriage. Keep in mind, Mike is ardently pro-local church. His ministry is singularly focused […]

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February 17, 2015

The Watch Dog Fights

Gary Thomas — 

“The watch dog fights while the wild dog runs away.” When danger confronts a wild dog, the wild dog runs away. It’s not tied to the home because in its heart, it doesn’t have one; it’s tied solely to its own self-interests. When danger confronts a watch dog, the watch dog doubles down, as if […]

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January 13, 2015

Give Her Wings

Guest Author — 

Guest post by: Megan D. Cox Abuse is rampant these days, and more, and more teachers, churches, and counselors are realizing that it is a deep problem, right now in the Body of Christ. How do we deal with it? How do we help women who are going through it? How do we manage our […]

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“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed. “We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life. My husband has just been awful. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.” You could have served […]

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November 11, 2014

Artificial Intimacy

Gary Thomas — 

  Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into their marriage? There was a time when they couldn’t imagine being apart for five hours; now they can’t bear the thought of being together for five minutes; what […]

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August 27, 2014

When a Marriage Meets Malice

Gary Thomas — 

Is the current state of your marriage (or divorce) marked by increasing love or escalating malice? Marital malice in all its forms is about the most destructive malice that there is. The Bible uses some startling, even vulgar language to warn us about this serious trait. There are some truly horrendous images in the Bible—grotesque, […]

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