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January 2, 2018

Dating

Gary Thomas — 

Should singles date someone only if they think they would like to marry them? One of the more common comments I get after a seminar, or after someone has read The Sacred Search, is this: “Should dating be reserved only for someone you think you want to marry?” The following email excerpt is typical: “My […]

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In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis shows how wide-ranging the word “love” is. It is used to define many different notions and mind-sets. What if you can take your marriage up a level this year? The first form of love (according to Lewis) is Need-Love, which is today what we call infatuation. “I […]

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December 14, 2017

Born to Die

Gary Thomas — 

As most Christians know, one of the most shocking gifts given to the baby Jesus was myrrh. It was one of three gifts typically given to kings. Matthew may not have intended it to predict Jesus’ death (myrrh was typically used for burial purposes). But the symbolism is impossible to ignore from a theological perspective: […]

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I thought I was one of the world’s biggest fans of marriage, until I asked a question on Facebook (“What do you love most about marriage?”) and found out there are legions of marriage fans out there! In the revised and updated edition of Sacred Marriage (published in 2015) I wrote, “I love marriage, and […]

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Lisa and I were at a women’s conference when Lisa asked the wife sitting next to her how she had slept the night before. “Terrible,” she replied. “I’m used to my husband’s backrub every night and it’s hard to get to sleep without it.” “Every night?” Lisa asked. “Every night.” Plenty of these blog posts […]

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November 20, 2017

The Marriage Saver

Gary Thomas — 

There is one thing that could save you thousands of dollars in marital counseling. It can turn a frustrating marriage into a delightful one. It can turn a barren marriage into a fruitful one. It can turn a hurtful marriage into an encouraging one. Indeed, if we will more earnestly pursue this one spiritual truth […]

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November 14, 2017

Self-Obsession and Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Your marriage isn’t about you. It’s not even about your marriage. Ultimately, your marriage is about proclaiming the power and glory of Jesus Christ. The problem for most of us is the bent of our lives. Christianity is an extreme religion, but we try to live it in the margins. Jesus said to love the […]

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I’ve been enjoying Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance and one thought in particular stuck out at me that is so relevant for marriage. Duckworth writes primarily about work and vocation in her book, but apply this thought in relational terms and you’ll see what I mean: “What ripens passion is […]

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September 21, 2017

He Ate My Chocolate

Gary Thomas — 

In premarital counseling, I tell couples, “Your ability to continue cherishing each other, treasuring each other and feeling close to each other will be directly tied to your ability to handle conflict in a way that brings you together instead of tearing you apart.” It doesn’t matter how strong your infatuation is, if you can’t […]

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  Every marriage can use a “pick-me-up” now and then, and some marriages need a complete overhaul. One of the things that have moved me most is when I was at a Cherish conference earlier this year and a couple told me, “The only reason we’re still married today is because we attended a Sacred […]

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