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November 20, 2017

The Marriage Saver

Gary Thomas — 

There is one thing that could save you thousands of dollars in marital counseling. It can turn a frustrating marriage into a delightful one. It can turn a barren marriage into a fruitful one. It can turn a hurtful marriage into an encouraging one. Indeed, if we will more earnestly pursue this one spiritual truth […]

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November 14, 2017

Self-Obsession and Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Your marriage isn’t about you. It’s not even about your marriage. Ultimately, your marriage is about proclaiming the power and glory of Jesus Christ. The problem for most of us is the bent of our lives. Christianity is an extreme religion, but we try to live it in the margins. Jesus said to love the […]

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I’ve been enjoying Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance and one thought in particular stuck out at me that is so relevant for marriage. Duckworth writes primarily about work and vocation in her book, but apply this thought in relational terms and you’ll see what I mean: “What ripens passion is […]

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September 21, 2017

He Ate My Chocolate

Gary Thomas — 

In premarital counseling, I tell couples, “Your ability to continue cherishing each other, treasuring each other and feeling close to each other will be directly tied to your ability to handle conflict in a way that brings you together instead of tearing you apart.” It doesn’t matter how strong your infatuation is, if you can’t […]

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  Every marriage can use a “pick-me-up” now and then, and some marriages need a complete overhaul. One of the things that have moved me most is when I was at a Cherish conference earlier this year and a couple told me, “The only reason we’re still married today is because we attended a Sacred […]

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My son is getting two masters’ degrees at Harvard. Lisa says I shouldn’t tell people that because it sounds like I’m bragging but it’s relevant to the point I’m about to make, so please forgive me. Graham was visiting during a vacation and I noticed he was reading a pretty lengthy history book that didn’t […]

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I woke up at 4:20 a.m. this morning for the “privilege” of running in 81 degree heat with ninety percent humidity. It was awful. August can certainly be a challenge for Houston runners. That’s why, a few weeks ago, I was excited to run in Albuquerque. Lisa and I flew in a day early for […]

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A lay counselor who has worked with hundreds of premarital couples told me that he particularly looks forward to the session when he lays out what he calls the “tough love truths” to the future bride (why he picks the bride for this, I’m not sure). During this session, David tells the woman that sometime […]

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Before being appointed commissioner of Major League Baseball in 1989, Bart Giamatti already had an impressive resume as a professor of English Renaissance Literature and president of Yale University. Unfortunately, his tenure as commissioner of Major League Baseball was cut painfully short when he died of a heart attack just five months into his service. […]

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I received the following email (edited for length and taking out any identifying information) from a reader:   I am so grateful a friend recommended your book, Sacred Search.  I’m currently on my fourth reading!  I’ve found it so helpful in evaluating my dating relationships….as well as realigning my beliefs & hopes about marriage with Scripture (& […]

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