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July 1, 2015

Sex Isn’t Optional

Gary Thomas — 

  “Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, […]

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Most of us, whether we realize it or not, evaluate our marriages almost every day.  If we’re in a social situation, we tend to wonder, “How does our marriage measure up to theirs?” When we’re by ourselves, the evaluation is often along the lines of, “Am I happier today than I was yesterday?” or “Am […]

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Rain is going to fall on your marriage; it’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. Which means, you better have a spiritual umbrella nearby. One husband wrote to me, furious that his libido is “twenty times” that of his wife. A wife is upset that her husband has a more intimate […]

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It was chilling when I read a book written three decades ago that quoted a (now dead) author who said, “The problem with Christians today is that nobody wants to kill them.” No Christian writer would dare utter those words today. Jesus’ prophecy is now all too true, worldwide: “Then they will hand you over […]

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May 26, 2015

I Was Born for This!

Gary Thomas — 

  “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  (Prov. 17:17) You’d be miserable indeed if you trained to become a fireman and resented it every time there was a fire. Not that you want there to be a fire, but putting out fires is what you’re trained to do. […]

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  Let me begin this post by sharing a common dilemma of life. How we resolve this dilemma will either serve or assault family intimacy. This account comes from a book that I highly recommend (Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown) A woman named Cynthia once told me a story about the […]

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May 16, 2015

Get Closer

Gary Thomas — 

Jorge was a typical soft middle-aged man when he got a taste for endurance sports. Within a year, he was absorbed in it. His body became chiseled, his weekends and evenings consumed with various competitions. His topic of conversation centered around training and times. Even his circle of friends gravitated toward those sharing the same […]

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Melissa had dated Jason for five years. “He’s a pretty good guy,” Melissa said. “He has most of the qualities you talked about tonight.” There’s usually a “but” when someone starts out like that, and here it was: “I was concerned about his relationship with his mom and family—she always came first. I’m not sure […]

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May 6, 2015

Despair or Depend

Gary Thomas — 

  “I’m done with this marriage, Gary. It has exhausted me, and I don’t have what it takes to make it work.” Though they didn’t realize it, Alice and her husband Ian were on the precipice of a really good place, perhaps even a divinely ordered one. Sometimes, God has to take us to the […]

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When we talk about marital killers, the default mode is to discuss lust and affairs, substance abuse, physical violence, busyness, poor priorities, and financial stress. Fair enough. But there’s another killer of marital happiness that gets far too little press. I want to put a spotlight on it in today’s post. Negative thinking can be […]

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