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“How do I endure being married to someone who isn’t as strong of a believer as I am?” This is a frequent question, most often asked by wives. John Wesley, the renowned 18th century teacher and founder of Methodism, might suggest you are in a particularly fruitful spiritual condition able to grow in ways you […]

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October 17, 2015

6 Marks of Healthy Sexuality

Gary Thomas — 

What are the marks of a healthy sexual relationship? It’s not inappropriate to ask what is most pleasurable or most exciting for married couples, but meaningful lovemaking is so much more than creating greater sexual arousal and climaxes. That’s why it’s not a bad idea to also ask “What are the markers of a wholesome […]

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How to Have an Increasingly Happy Marriage One of my favorite teachers of Scripture is in the midst of a series on what makes us happy. Near the beginning of one sermon he (correctly, in my view) challenged those Christians who say, “What if God wants you to be holy instead of happy?” Since the […]

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In Sacred Marriage I tell an old rabbinical story, but as I reworked the book for the new edition, I realized I may have originally missed one of the main points. Let me re-tell it with that point made more clearly. There’s an old rabbinical story about how the spot was chosen for God’s holy […]

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September 1, 2015

The Only Man in the World

Gary Thomas — 

Women, the door to true happiness in marriage—the key to becoming the most pleased and happiest of wives—is to begin viewing your husband as Adam, the only man in the world. When you get married, you agree (consciously or not) to a “commitment of contentment.” You forever reset the boundaries for what makes you content. […]

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August 27, 2015

The Only Woman in the World

Gary Thomas — 

Men, if you would like to have superlative satisfaction in your marriage, if you would enjoy a love for your wife that has no comparison, go back with me to the beginning of time—when Adam walked the earth by himself with God. Adam watched little animals and bigger animals, he discovered a wide variety of […]

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August 22, 2015

Finding the “Win-Win”

Guest Author — 

  Too many of us think that anger is like flatulence: it’s an uncomfortable feeling that grows bigger and bigger, but if you just let it out, you’ll feel so much better. Anger doesn’t work that way. When we let anger fly–by yelling, or saying hurtful things–we often make a situation worse. And that’s because […]

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Victoria (not her real name) is married to a selfish spouse. She prays for him. She encourages him. She seeks ways to serve him. Her husband soaks it up but hasn’t learned to give half as much in return. If I give examples I may blow her cover, but most of you know marriages like […]

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“Faithful” isn’t the most exciting of words. It’s kind of boring. You won’t read of a Nicholas Sparks’ hero telling his girlfriend, “I just want to be faithful to you my entire life.” A movie won’t raise a crescendo of music as one lover tells another, “You’re so faithful. So faithful.” We relish and cry […]

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One hundred and eighty degrees is how hot I like my chai tea lattes, and it’s also the difference between what I initially thought my greatest need in life is compared to what God thinks it is. Most of us, I believe, are eager to get married because we think our greatest need is to […]

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