Archives For building intimacy

November 11, 2014

Artificial Intimacy

Gary Thomas — 

  Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into their marriage? There was a time when they couldn’t imagine being apart for five hours; now they can’t bear the thought of being together for five minutes; what […]

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9:30 p.m. I have to get up at 4:30 a.m. for my Saturday run group. “So, what time are you going to be home tomorrow?” Lisa asks. “Let’s see. Run from 5:30 to 7, we’ll talk a bit afterwards, I’ll take a shower, stop at Starbucks, I’d say around 8:00.” “You don’t have to stop […]

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October 7, 2014

Pulling Tubes

Gary Thomas — 

  Having just heard me speak on marriage, the 60-something woman was already in tears by the time she reached the front of the line. “What you’re saying is so true. I’ve worked at a hospice for twenty years. Caring for people is what I do. Yet somehow, it never got transferred to home. I […]

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September 30, 2014

A Marriage Worthy of Our Calling

Gary Thomas — 

Sparks will fly (in a good way) if we’ll apply Ephesians 4:1-3 to our marriages. “Therefore I… beg you to lead a life worthy of your calling, for you have been called by God. 2 Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. 3 Make […]

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            QUESTION:  I have been reading your book The Sacred Search and I am almost done with it.   I was wondering if you could just clarify something for me. In chapter 15, you talk about knowing whether a person is healed from his or her sexual past, and not proceed […]

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September 19, 2014

A Double Dose of Good

Gary Thomas — 

Confession: we have one of the worst backyards in our neighborhood. You are free to feel sorry for my wife. A couple times a week I think, “Gary, you really need to do something here,” but I never feel motivated enough to actually get going.   If there is any defense, I struggle to find […]

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September 11, 2014

A New Perspective…

Gary Thomas — 

In a culture that celebrates young love, senior citizens can humble us with their depth of devotion. Sit back and enjoy a tender true story of a young doctor who discovered what over fifty years of faithful marriage can do to a man… (This is a guest post written by my friend Dr. Greg Bledsoe)  […]

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September 3, 2014

Make Him Want You…

Gary Thomas — 

This is going to seem like an explicit post to some, a hurtful post to others, but it could be helpful to many, so I’m going to risk it.  It won’t work for every marriage; it may even compound the hurt for some (because you’ve tried it and it backfired and emphasized rather than cured […]

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