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February 12, 2015

50 Problems with Grey

Gary Thomas — 

A Husband’s Random Thoughts on Fifty Shades of Grey I’m not into creating lists of “do’s” and “don’ts” that aren’t in Scripture. If anything, the Bible is relatively silent about such lists within marriage. It’s not my intent to disparage any appropriate act that a husband and wife enjoy in their private moments. Yet every […]

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Over 114 million people watched this year’s Super Bowl. Less than a hundred people actually played in it. That’s an infinitesimal percent which closely mirrors, I would guess, the percentage of average marriages to truly intimate marriages. It’s one thing to watch, it’s another thing entirely to play. Far too many couples merely “watch” their […]

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While reading a wonderful book on marriage, I came across some spectacular advice that would be very harmful in one of the marriages I’ve worked with: “I learned that the most romantic gesture I can offer Christi is simply asking about her day, how she’s feeling, and what’s going on in her heart and mind.” […]

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January 20, 2015

From Fiasco to Fine

Gary Thomas — 

The word “fiasco,” something that is considered a complete failure, was born in Italy. Literally, it means to “make a bottle,” or “make a wine glass.” It can have a fascinating connection to marriage. Some of you may recall that my Italian publisher invited Lisa and me to Italy in December to speak at a […]

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What if God makes “art” out of our moments of brokenness, sin, mistakes, and even marital disasters? Joe White is president of Kanakuk Kamps and founder of Kids Across America. He uses a word picture that I’ve found rather moving. He begins by saying that none of God’s “paintings” are on canvas. “They’re all made […]

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  Guest post by Sandy Ralya.. Have you ever been desperate for a breakthrough in your marriage? I mean, the if-something-doesn’t-change-soon-I-don’t-think-I-can-go-on kind of breakthrough? Married at nineteen, I didn’t have a clue about how to deal with the emotional, verbal, and spiritual abuse I suffered. When my husband and I drove through our local McDonald’s, […]

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Most married couples spend a good bit of time thinking, “How can we draw closer to each other?” Sometimes, we need to step back and ask a more fundamental question: “How can we encourage each other to get closer to God?” Doing that will help you get closer to each other. Spirituality isn’t the paint […]

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December 9, 2014

Joy to the World

Gary Thomas — 

“But the angel said, ‘Do not be afraid.  I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.’” Luke 2:10 I love to look at internet lists like “12 Best Christmas Gifts for Wives.” Lisa and I have been married for thirty years; sometimes, I need a little help to […]

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The vicar in a small British village had heard enough of Jean’s complaints. “All I’ve been hearing is continual carping about how awful it has been for you being married to Reg, how mean and bad-tempered he is. I’m fed up with hearing the same old thing week in and week out. I don’t want […]

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November 11, 2014

Artificial Intimacy

Gary Thomas — 

  Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into their marriage? There was a time when they couldn’t imagine being apart for five hours; now they can’t bear the thought of being together for five minutes; what […]

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