Archives For building intimacy

One hundred and eighty degrees is how hot I like my chai tea lattes, and it’s also the difference between what I initially thought my greatest need in life is compared to what God thinks it is. Most of us, I believe, are eager to get married because we think our greatest need is to […]

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You can read all the “how to” books you want. You can apply all the fun little intimacy exercises, burn through all the clever conversation starters, or exhaust half a dozen “date night” idea books. And I’m not suggesting you don’t. What I am suggesting is that most all of the marital wisdom you need […]

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July 1, 2015

Sex Isn’t Optional

Gary Thomas — 

  “Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, […]

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Most of us, whether we realize it or not, evaluate our marriages almost every day.  If we’re in a social situation, we tend to wonder, “How does our marriage measure up to theirs?” When we’re by ourselves, the evaluation is often along the lines of, “Am I happier today than I was yesterday?” or “Am […]

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Rain is going to fall on your marriage; it’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. Which means, you better have a spiritual umbrella nearby. One husband wrote to me, furious that his libido is “twenty times” that of his wife. A wife is upset that her husband has a more intimate […]

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June 10, 2015

Fire Up Your Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Most of us who have iPhones love them, but after a year, the problem with a smart phone is that the battery gets weaker and weaker. It is glorious in the first six months when you plug your phone in at night and don’t even think about power levels until the next evening. But at […]

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May 26, 2015

I Was Born for This!

Gary Thomas — 

  “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”  (Prov. 17:17) You’d be miserable indeed if you trained to become a fireman and resented it every time there was a fire. Not that you want there to be a fire, but putting out fires is what you’re trained to do. […]

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May 16, 2015

Get Closer

Gary Thomas — 

Jorge was a typical soft middle-aged man when he got a taste for endurance sports. Within a year, he was absorbed in it. His body became chiseled, his weekends and evenings consumed with various competitions. His topic of conversation centered around training and times. Even his circle of friends gravitated toward those sharing the same […]

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To celebrate each other regularly during a lifelong love, you have to get creative with a lot of presents. If I get my wife just two things for Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day, her birthday, our anniversary, and Christmas, that’s ten distinct presents a year, which means over the course of 30 years I’ve had to […]

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“Why is it always on us?” The leader of the wives’ study group looked at Lisa and me, explaining that after reading numerous books on marriage together, it always seemed to come down to the wives being the ones to set the relationship right. All of these women had read many books on marriage. At […]

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