Turtledoves are perhaps most famous for their place in what has become a slightly obnoxious Christmas song: “On the first day of Christmas, my true love sent to me…” Outside of this song, turtledoves are known for two things: they mate for life (thus you almost always find them in pairs) they have no peripheral […]
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As we enter the holidays, here’s something to think about to inject new life into your marriage and family: Laugh together. Think about how to make each other laugh uproariously. Life is tough. Things get serious. If we stop laughing part of us dies. In a very real sense, to stop laughing is to stop […]
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My heart is grieving. I’ve received several Facebook messages from women who asked my advice about a dysfunctional dating relationship when The Sacred Search first came out several years ago. Each one noticed several “red flags” in their dating relationship and asked me if I thought they should be concerned. In every case, the answer […]
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How to Have an Increasingly Happy Marriage One of my favorite teachers of Scripture is in the midst of a series on what makes us happy. Near the beginning of one sermon he (correctly, in my view) challenged those Christians who say, “What if God wants you to be holy instead of happy?” Since the […]
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Men, if you would like to have superlative satisfaction in your marriage, if you would enjoy a love for your wife that has no comparison, go back with me to the beginning of time—when Adam walked the earth by himself with God. Adam watched little animals and bigger animals, he discovered a wide variety of […]
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Too many of us think that anger is like flatulence: it’s an uncomfortable feeling that grows bigger and bigger, but if you just let it out, you’ll feel so much better. Anger doesn’t work that way. When we let anger fly–by yelling, or saying hurtful things–we often make a situation worse. And that’s because […]
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One hundred and eighty degrees is how hot I like my chai tea lattes, and it’s also the difference between what I initially thought my greatest need in life is compared to what God thinks it is. Most of us, I believe, are eager to get married because we think our greatest need is to […]
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You can read all the “how to” books you want. You can apply all the fun little intimacy exercises, burn through all the clever conversation starters, or exhaust half a dozen “date night” idea books. And I’m not suggesting you don’t. What I am suggesting is that most all of the marital wisdom you need […]
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“Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, […]
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Most of us, whether we realize it or not, evaluate our marriages almost every day. If we’re in a social situation, we tend to wonder, “How does our marriage measure up to theirs?” When we’re by ourselves, the evaluation is often along the lines of, “Am I happier today than I was yesterday?” or “Am […]
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