Archives For building intimacy

February 10, 2018

Mr. Fix It

Gary Thomas — 

  [Note: the last post began a three-part series helping wives understand the way their husbands think. You can read that post here: Understanding the Mind of the Man You Married. All these posts are adapted from Gary’s newest book, Loving Him Well: Practical Advice for Influencing Your Husband. This post also has much relevant […]

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January 31, 2018

The Bubble Busting Spouse

Gary Thomas — 

Robert has an admittedly sordid history with pornography. He has been in recovery for years, has set up appropriate accountability and has gone out of his way to rebuild his marriage. He has (in his words) “devoured” my book Cherish and has sought to apply every principle in every chapter. He knows he can never […]

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In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis shows how wide-ranging the word “love” is. It is used to define many different notions and mind-sets. What if you can take your marriage up a level this year? The first form of love (according to Lewis) is Need-Love, which is today what we call infatuation. “I […]

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It’s hard to believe, but we’re near the end of 2017. It’s been a good year. 2016, on the other hand, was not my favorite. I put on a lot of weight, didn’t watch what I ate, and didn’t exercise on a consistent basis. I swept some unresolved conflict with my boss under the rug […]

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December 14, 2017

Born to Die

Gary Thomas — 

As most Christians know, one of the most shocking gifts given to the baby Jesus was myrrh. It was one of three gifts typically given to kings. Matthew may not have intended it to predict Jesus’ death (myrrh was typically used for burial purposes). But the symbolism is impossible to ignore from a theological perspective: […]

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I thought I was one of the world’s biggest fans of marriage, until I asked a question on Facebook (“What do you love most about marriage?”) and found out there are legions of marriage fans out there! In the revised and updated edition of Sacred Marriage (published in 2015) I wrote, “I love marriage, and […]

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One of the best gifts you can give your spouse this Christmas isn’t just a book; it’s a renewal of a promise. Imagine your spouse opening up a Christmas present this year and seeing the book Cherish. But you’re watching, so you quickly explain, “The book isn’t my gift. The real gift is a renewal […]

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The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. Prov. 18:22 What a joy to be married to a godly woman! A godly wife isn’t a possession, but she is a treasure. On my Facebook personal page and author page, I asked men to brag about their wives, […]

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October 26, 2017

Will You Comfort Her?

Gary Thomas — 

I have a tendency to wake up ridiculously early, often even before four a.m. I’ll try, many times unsuccessfully, to go back to sleep. One morning I just went ahead and got up. An hour or so later, walking out of my office, I saw the master bedroom light turned on underneath the door. That […]

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While working on my book Cherish: The One Word That Changes Everything for Your Marriage, I interviewed a woman who told me about an amazing marital “exercise” she put into practice. She spent an entire year working on her husband’s Christmas present. What she did was write a journal that recorded something she was thankful […]

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