Archives For Singles / Dating

One of the most popular quotes from The Sacred Search, a line that has been retweeted many times, is “If I’m going to make myself extremely vulnerable to someone, I want that person to be ruled by the Holy Spirit.” The farther you walk into dating, the more intimate it becomes. They get to know […]

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January 2, 2014

How Would Jesus Date?

Gary Thomas — 

  Brain research suggests that romantic attachment—infatuation—is more powerful than the sex drive. Neurologically speaking, it’s easier to say no to physical sexual passion than it is to regulate the rush of emotional infatuation. Consider all the sermons you’ve heard as a single about reining in the sex drive, developing skills to say “stop” in […]

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December 26, 2013

Devotionals for the New Year

Gary Thomas — 

If marriage is sacred, then it will never be stronger than your walk with God. Walking with God is as far from a one-time decision as running a marathon is as far from sending in an entry form. Walking with God is built on a thousand daily steps in His direction. This post is designed […]

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November 25, 2013

Baby Bouncing

Gary Thomas — 

There is a common trap in marriage that younger couples need to be aware of. I call it “baby bouncing.” In a real-life case (names changed), Francine ultimately grieved when her husband Jacques fell madly in love with their firstborn child (Eliane). That might sound odd; wouldn’t a mother love the fact that her husband […]

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When talking to a group of singles, one woman took offense when I said that part of our response to the Bible’s affirmation of pursuing marriage (Prov. 31:10) is to work on making ourselves more “marriageable.” That might mean getting in shape, getting out of debt, growing deeper in the Lord, improving relational skills, etc. […]

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“By the way, you spent eight thousand dollars today.” “Seriously?” I asked my wife. “Yeah. We paid off a college loan.” If you think kids are expensive when they’re babies, wait until they hit their late teens and early twenties. Even so, I think having kids is one of the best things men can do […]

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The young woman’s plaintive question—“Don’t you want your daughters to be in love on their wedding day?”—offered shortly after I had just spoken on The Sacred Search, was one last attempt to hold on to a myth that she felt I had just shattered. I get it. Hollywood has created such a wildly romantic scenario, […]

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I see it all the time. A woman comes off a relationship with a jerk or insensitive man who broke her heart, left her weeping in a mess on the floor, and then she comes across a somewhat boring but nice, stable Christian man and decides to marry him on the spot. A guy suffers […]

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It was soy. I knew it as soon as I tasted it. They added the water. They were supposed to hold the water. There are numerous ways to mess up a chai tea latte at Starbucks. I’ve had so many 7 pump venti chais, no water, 180 degrees, that I know exactly how they should […]

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September 20, 2013

Listen to Wedding Day Doubts

Gary Thomas — 

What I’ve long suspected appears to be true: people should pay more, not less, attention to wedding day doubts. It’s so easy to get caught up in a major infatuation, make a hasty commitment, get lost in planning a special day and then, as the day creeps closer and reality settles in, you start asking […]

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