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Answering This Famous Question in One Sentence: Want to know what your current boyfriend or girlfriend will be like as a husband or wife? The answer to this question could be the most important piece of information to consider before marrying your boyfriend or girlfriend. Or letting your kids marry their boyfriend or girlfriend. And […]

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I saw a depiction of first century (B.C.) Romans carrying their queen’s living quarters.  They had built a room with a bed (complete with a roof) and then put poles under it.  Thirty or so men would lift up the poles and walk.  It made me think: how heavy would that thing get in four […]

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  Singles, married people never argue with me when I quote James 3:2, that we all stumble in many ways.  You don’t have to convince anyone who is married that the human heart is evil and has a propensity to go astray.  We see the evil in our own hearts more than enough; sometimes, we […]

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  A friend of mine started saving for his wife’s wedding ring from the time he was in his mid-teens. He didn’t save much, of course. Sometimes he’d put just five or ten dollars in a jar. That isn’t enough to clean most wedding rings, much less purchase a high-quality diamond, but the amount wasn’t […]

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March 31, 2014

The Ultimate Prenup

Gary Thomas — 

One of my best friends (and co-author with me on the Sacred Search Couple’s Conversation Guide), Dr. Steve Wilke, once shocked a church when they asked him about pre-nuptial agreements before marriage. They all expected him, as a Christian writer and speaker and counselor, to come out strongly against them. He began by saying, “I’m […]

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One of the greatest challenges we face in fighting sin is to accurately call sin, sin. We like to dress it up, pretend it’s something different or at least “neutral.” Or we excuse it, as something wrongly done with perhaps good motives. In his marvelous book Renovation of the Heart (A book I wish every […]

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One of the most popular quotes from The Sacred Search, a line that has been retweeted many times, is “If I’m going to make myself extremely vulnerable to someone, I want that person to be ruled by the Holy Spirit.” The farther you walk into dating, the more intimate it becomes. They get to know […]

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January 2, 2014

How Would Jesus Date?

Gary Thomas — 

  Brain research suggests that romantic attachment—infatuation—is more powerful than the sex drive. Neurologically speaking, it’s easier to say no to physical sexual passion than it is to regulate the rush of emotional infatuation. Consider all the sermons you’ve heard as a single about reining in the sex drive, developing skills to say “stop” in […]

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December 26, 2013

Devotionals for the New Year

Gary Thomas — 

If marriage is sacred, then it will never be stronger than your walk with God. Walking with God is as far from a one-time decision as running a marathon is as far from sending in an entry form. Walking with God is built on a thousand daily steps in His direction. This post is designed […]

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November 25, 2013

Baby Bouncing

Gary Thomas — 

There is a common trap in marriage that younger couples need to be aware of. I call it “baby bouncing.” In a real-life case (names changed), Francine ultimately grieved when her husband Jacques fell madly in love with their firstborn child (Eliane). That might sound odd; wouldn’t a mother love the fact that her husband […]

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