Archives For Singles / Dating

Britney is in her early thirties and has mostly married friends. As a single, Britney told me she sees marriage from the perspective of what you gain, but almost all her married friends see marriage from the perspective of what they have lost. They seem frustrated with what their marriage isn’t, while Britney sees so […]

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March 26, 2020

For Such a Time as This

Gary Thomas — 

A few weeks ago, a good friend of ours texted both Lisa and me to ask what was going on. She had had a terrifying dream about us the night before. “You and Lisa were in this tall tower,” she explained, “and this red plane was headed straight for you. I could see both you […]

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March 18, 2020

Send Us into the Pigs

Gary Thomas — 

Imagine you had once looked upon the unvarnished glory of God—not with human eyes, but with angelic ones. You were one of the angels who could dwell in the direct presence of God without being burnt up by His light, power, and glory. For whatever reason, you followed Satan and joined in a rebellion against […]

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When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later admit that perhaps she could have given a little more thought to such a monumental life decision: “When Kevin popped the question no one asked us a bigger question: ‘Why do you want […]

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February 26, 2020

What God Asks of Husbands

Gary Thomas — 

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my love for the other. Everything I aspire to be as a husband is because of what the Bible calls me to be. And since Jesus was never married, I have to take the […]

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February 19, 2020

Free for the First Time

Gary Thomas — 

Have you ever kept a toxic person in your life because you didn’t want to hurt their feelings? It’s almost comical when you think about it—they’re terrorizing you, but you still don’t want to offend them. I received the following message from a reader of When to Walk Away, and it’s just the kind of […]

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Having a net worth of nearly two billion dollars, American investor Howard Marks is a fan of poker and other games that combine skill and chance. He writes an occasional investment letter and in a recent one talks about what he’s learned from reading Annie Duke’s Thinking in Bets: Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t […]

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There is very little reasoned, biblical perspective when it comes to evaluating physical attraction in dating and marriage. Debra Fileta does a wonderful job of pointing out our culture’s weaknesses in this regard and helping us find the “more excellent way” of Scripture. If you’re single, you need this perspective to help you make a […]

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With good intentions, we often warn single Christians about the relational damage associated with premarital sex. In a noble desire to urge single believers to follow God’s design of abstinence before marriage, we can unwittingly sabotage God’s design after marriage if we’re not just as pastoral claiming the victory of God over confessed sin as […]

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Neuroscience tells us that the shelf-life of an infatuation is about twelve to eighteen months. It’s a nice run while it lasts, but when the slide starts, you can’t stop it. You’ve got to find something new to build. That “something new” can be a cherishing marriage. Infatuation is built on happenstance. When it hits, […]

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