Due to a degenerative eye disease, I live with basically one eye. You wouldn’t know it looking at me, but an ophthalmologist explained to me that my left eye has reached the point where my brain doesn’t rely on it any more. What I see basically comes through my right eye.   I write with […]

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January 19, 2018

They Just Don’t Understand

Gary Thomas — 

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. Matthew 5:11 Melissa has to leave her home every Tuesday and Friday at 3:00 p.m. to take Christy to a physical therapy session on the other side of Chicago. Because she wants to leave […]

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January 11, 2018

Vending Machine Prayers

Gary Thomas — 

In his book, My Name Is Hope, John Mark Comer contrasts “vending machine prayers” with “prayers in Jesus’ name.” When applied to marriage, the analogy is quite illuminating. John Mark writes, “Vending machine prayers sound like, ‘God, my marriage is a wreck. Fix my marriage. Make me happy with my spouse. “Prayers in Jesus’ name […]

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January 2, 2018

Dating

Gary Thomas — 

Should singles date someone only if they think they would like to marry them? One of the more common comments I get after a seminar, or after someone has read The Sacred Search, is this: “Should dating be reserved only for someone you think you want to marry?” The following email excerpt is typical: “My […]

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In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis shows how wide-ranging the word “love” is. It is used to define many different notions and mind-sets. What if you can take your marriage up a level this year? The first form of love (according to Lewis) is Need-Love, which is today what we call infatuation. “I […]

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It’s hard to believe, but we’re near the end of 2017. It’s been a good year. 2016, on the other hand, was not my favorite. I put on a lot of weight, didn’t watch what I ate, and didn’t exercise on a consistent basis. I swept some unresolved conflict with my boss under the rug […]

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December 14, 2017

Born to Die

Gary Thomas — 

As most Christians know, one of the most shocking gifts given to the baby Jesus was myrrh. It was one of three gifts typically given to kings. Matthew may not have intended it to predict Jesus’ death (myrrh was typically used for burial purposes). But the symbolism is impossible to ignore from a theological perspective: […]

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I thought I was one of the world’s biggest fans of marriage, until I asked a question on Facebook (“What do you love most about marriage?”) and found out there are legions of marriage fans out there! In the revised and updated edition of Sacred Marriage (published in 2015) I wrote, “I love marriage, and […]

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One of the best gifts you can give your spouse this Christmas isn’t just a book; it’s a renewal of a promise. Imagine your spouse opening up a Christmas present this year and seeing the book Cherish. But you’re watching, so you quickly explain, “The book isn’t my gift. The real gift is a renewal […]

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The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord. Prov. 18:22 What a joy to be married to a godly woman! A godly wife isn’t a possession, but she is a treasure. On my Facebook personal page and author page, I asked men to brag about their wives, […]

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