When taping a show for Family Life recently, I listened to co-host Bob Lepine mention how a couple used what may be the best verse in the Bible ever chosen for a wedding: “Oh magnify the Lord with me; let us exalt His name together.” (Psalm 34:3) Isn’t that marvelous? Isn’t that a great aim […]

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It was soy. I knew it as soon as I tasted it. They added the water. They were supposed to hold the water. There are numerous ways to mess up a chai tea latte at Starbucks. I’ve had so many 7 pump venti chais, no water, 180 degrees, that I know exactly how they should […]

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There is no escape clause. I repeat, the Bible doesn’t give us an escape clause. Scripture roots our marital relationships in something so rock solid and never changing that there isn’t even a millimeter of wiggle room: we are to relate to each other “out of reverence for Christ.” (Eph. 5:21) So later, when Paul […]

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September 27, 2013

Married to Ms. Pac-Man

Gary Thomas — 

I happen to know the co-creator of Ms. PacMan. Lisa and I have even vacationed with he and his wife. So I was primed to enjoy a marital analogy that Kay Warren uses in her excellent (and highly recommended) book Choose Joy: A few years ago, Rick sat down with me and said something that […]

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From Gary: Megan Raines and her husband thought their marriage was at an end. They even began speaking the “divorce” word. The path they found out of this malaise isn’t all that original, but their story is as helpful and practical as it is inspirational, and I believe it would work for many, many couples. […]

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“I guess I still love him, in a way; I’m just not in love with him anymore.” How many times have you heard a friend say that about their spouse? Maybe you’ve heard yourself say that. Here’s a radical thought: why do we think “in love” matters more than “biblical love”? Why do we think […]

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September 20, 2013

Listen to Wedding Day Doubts

Gary Thomas — 

What I’ve long suspected appears to be true: people should pay more, not less, attention to wedding day doubts. It’s so easy to get caught up in a major infatuation, make a hasty commitment, get lost in planning a special day and then, as the day creeps closer and reality settles in, you start asking […]

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September 16, 2013

Got Mission?

Gary Thomas — 

Married couples are often asked: “Are you praying together?” “Are you having sex frequently enough?” “Are you going on date nights?” I don’t have a problem with any of these points of advice; it’s just that what is often most lacking in such lists is one of the most crucial elements of all: mission. If […]

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September 13, 2013

A Fierce Force in Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Don’t we all wish we could say the following? “We have such a good marriage. We hardly fight at all, if ever. We’re just so compatible.” And, in fact, if God said to me, “Gary I’m going to give you the easiest marriage and the easiest life, if you want it,” I don’t think I’d […]

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Why do so many Christians believe that passionately pursuing a marriage somehow threatens God, undermines his providence, and is tantamount to idolatry? The same women who say, “God will bring the right person at the right time; I’m just going to sit around and wait” rarely display that attitude when it comes to finding a […]

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