February 27, 2014

Every Affair is Intentional

Gary Thomas — 

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every affair is an intentional affair. This is a guest post taken from their book, “The Marriage App.” The first commandment says, “You may have no other gods before me.”…God is not saying that He […]

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February 24, 2014

You Had Me at Jell-O

Gary Thomas — 

(This post is a book excerpt written by my friends, Paul and Virginia Friesen, who wrote The Marriage App) It was John and Wendy’s favorite vacation spot during their 38-year marriage: twice each year they would fly to Hawaii and rent a cottage or stay in a timeshare, sometimes alone, but often with their family. […]

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February 17, 2014

When Your Spouse Annoys You…

Gary Thomas — 

Demons may not live the truth, but many times, they can understand it. In C.S. Lewis’ classic book The Screwtape Letters, Screwtape, the mentor demon, writes to his protégé Wormwood, “When two humans have lived together for many years, it usually happens that each has tones of voice and expressions of face which are almost […]

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February 13, 2014

Divine Valentines

Gary Thomas — 

If you want to make this Valentines’ Day special, in addition to shopping for the lingerie and chocolate, spend some extra time worshipping God. It’s not that I have anything against chocolate or lingerie (especially lingerie), but nearly three decades of marriage has taught me that personal worship is an absolute must to sustain a […]

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February 10, 2014

I Love Him Anyway

Gary Thomas — 

  Meg and Peter have been married for more than twenty years. On Valentine’s Day, Meg went all out, giving Peter his favorite candy, tickets to an upcoming hockey game, and, later at night, she wrapped herself in a special outfit purchased for just that occasion. Peter got her a card. At the grocery store. […]

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Talking is one of the best ways to build intimacy as a couple. It is easy, however, to slip into “purposeless” talk or “utilitarian” talk (just going over what the kids are doing, what needs to be done around the house, etc.). That’s fine for many occasions, but to keep building intimacy, it’s helpful to […]

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In the first few decades of the Christian church, virtually every church was a “house church.” And to serve that house church, Paul urges the Corinthians to “Follow the way of love and eagerly desire spiritual gifts.” (1 Cor. 14:1) We usually think of “spiritual gifts” being used in a big sanctuary—a pastor speaking to […]

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January 30, 2014

Marriage Monopoly

Gary Thomas — 

When still in high school, our youngest daughter stayed home one day, too sick to attend school, so my wife and I agreed to play what turned out to be the most boring game of Monopoly in the history of the world.  While all three of us suffered through the ordeal, I had time—plenty of […]

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January 27, 2014

God Hates Domestic Violence

Gary Thomas — 

Two days before Christmas, I accidentally sent a decorative reindeer hurtling off a small table in our library. This reindeer definitely could not fly and it shattered into five separate pieces. I picked each piece up, knowing there was no way I could repair this, and presented the demolished deer to Lisa. “That’s fine,” she […]

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January 23, 2014

A Prayer Worth Repeating

Gary Thomas — 

Most of us have heard “The Prayer of St. Francis” so many times we could practically say it by heart. In reality, there is no historical basis to believe St. Francis ever prayed this prayer—it didn’t really exist until the early twentieth century. But whoever wrote it, it’s a powerful prayer, and today I’m asking […]

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