April 24, 2014

Creating Time

Gary Thomas — 

More and more young couples—even Christian couples—are questioning what my generation took for granted—after you get married, eventually you have kids. In this post, I want to provide a bit of perspective for those who are wondering if it’s “worth it.” (This post is not for those who want kids and aren’t physically able to […]

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April 21, 2014

Don’t Look Back

Gary Thomas — 

A relationship from my teen years still makes me wince whenever the girl’s name comes to mind. One day I was praying about looking her up to tell her how sorry I felt for how I acted over 25 years ago. One of my best friends adamantly opposed the idea.  In his experience from counseling, […]

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April 17, 2014

The Last Day of Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

“It is finished.” Perhaps the most glorious sentence ever uttered, at the end of Jesus’ crucifixion, can serve every marriage by teaching us to keep the last day of our marriage in mind. Jesus’ words declare with triumphant finality the completion of a passionate mission. In just three words, Jesus proclaims that He lived a […]

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April 14, 2014

Damned By Denial

Gary Thomas — 

What was the first thing that Adam and Eve did after they sinned? They both denied it. What did Cain do when confronted with his murder of Abel? He denied it. And what do we do, when marriage puts a spotlight on our sin? All too often, we play the same game and deny it, […]

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April 10, 2014

Hard Truth

Gary Thomas — 

  “The truth is, you’re committing fraud.” Melissa let the words go and then flinched, waiting for her husband’s response. Grant called his bookkeeping practices “creative tax policy” and wanted his wife’s approval. Melissa couldn’t give it. Nor should she have. Most of us were raised in a culture that views “friendship” as making people […]

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April 7, 2014

God Oases

Gary Thomas — 

Up until I wrote this blog post, only two people, other than Lisa and me, knew this story, and one of them is dead. Lisa and I had been married for just a couple months. There was a spiritual crisis of sorts, not threatening our marriage, but freaking us out. We went and visited my […]

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Eighty years ago, two women spent a year listening to God and wrote down their thoughts in a daily devotional published as God Calling, similar in style to the mega-successful Jesus Calling by Sarah Young in our day. Nobody except for the collaborator (A.J. Russell) knows their names. For their own reasons, they wanted to […]

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March 31, 2014

The Ultimate Prenup

Gary Thomas — 

One of my best friends (and co-author with me on the Sacred Search Couple’s Conversation Guide), Dr. Steve Wilke, once shocked a church when they asked him about pre-nuptial agreements before marriage. They all expected him, as a Christian writer and speaker and counselor, to come out strongly against them. He began by saying, “I’m […]

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One of the greatest challenges we face in fighting sin is to accurately call sin, sin. We like to dress it up, pretend it’s something different or at least “neutral.” Or we excuse it, as something wrongly done with perhaps good motives. In his marvelous book Renovation of the Heart (A book I wish every […]

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March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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