Are you as good of a spouse as you think you are? How do you know? A student in one of my classes at Western Seminary (Portland, OR), was challenged when we talked through this in class. He later shared his story (in written form allowing me to share it with others): Sacred Marriage served […]

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         There are two questions we can ask within marriage that will take us to two entirely different dimensions. We have to choose in which dimension we want to live. The two questions are these:             “How can I bless you?”             Or:             “How can I get my own way?”             If we live in […]

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    (This is a guest post written by a good friend of mine, Dr. Steve Wilke. You can visit his ministry page at: www.sonkist.com )   While taping an upcoming vlog, my friend Gary Thomas and I discussed abuse in marriage. Sadly, its impact is far more pervasive than most would like to admit. […]

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  Just two hours a week.  That’s all it takes to affair-proof and divorce-proof your marriage. After years of reading, writing, and speaking on marriage, and a few less years doing some pastoral counseling, I’ve identified two things that, when they are in place, can almost guarantee that your spouse won’t have an affair and […]

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  A friend of mine started saving for his wife’s wedding ring from the time he was in his mid-teens. He didn’t save much, of course. Sometimes he’d put just five or ten dollars in a jar. That isn’t enough to clean most wedding rings, much less purchase a high-quality diamond, but the amount wasn’t […]

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April 24, 2014

Creating Time

Gary Thomas — 

More and more young couples—even Christian couples—are questioning what my generation took for granted—after you get married, eventually you have kids. In this post, I want to provide a bit of perspective for those who are wondering if it’s “worth it.” (This post is not for those who want kids and aren’t physically able to […]

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April 21, 2014

Don’t Look Back

Gary Thomas — 

A relationship from my teen years still makes me wince whenever the girl’s name comes to mind. One day I was praying about looking her up to tell her how sorry I felt for how I acted over 25 years ago. One of my best friends adamantly opposed the idea.  In his experience from counseling, […]

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April 17, 2014

The Last Day of Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

“It is finished.” Perhaps the most glorious sentence ever uttered, at the end of Jesus’ crucifixion, can serve every marriage by teaching us to keep the last day of our marriage in mind. Jesus’ words declare with triumphant finality the completion of a passionate mission. In just three words, Jesus proclaims that He lived a […]

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April 14, 2014

Damned By Denial

Gary Thomas — 

What was the first thing that Adam and Eve did after they sinned? They both denied it. What did Cain do when confronted with his murder of Abel? He denied it. And what do we do, when marriage puts a spotlight on our sin? All too often, we play the same game and deny it, […]

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April 10, 2014

Hard Truth

Gary Thomas — 

  “The truth is, you’re committing fraud.” Melissa let the words go and then flinched, waiting for her husband’s response. Grant called his bookkeeping practices “creative tax policy” and wanted his wife’s approval. Melissa couldn’t give it. Nor should she have. Most of us were raised in a culture that views “friendship” as making people […]

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