April 10, 2014

Hard Truth

Gary Thomas — 

  “The truth is, you’re committing fraud.” Melissa let the words go and then flinched, waiting for her husband’s response. Grant called his bookkeeping practices “creative tax policy” and wanted his wife’s approval. Melissa couldn’t give it. Nor should she have. Most of us were raised in a culture that views “friendship” as making people […]

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April 7, 2014

God Oases

Gary Thomas — 

Up until I wrote this blog post, only two people, other than Lisa and me, knew this story, and one of them is dead. Lisa and I had been married for just a couple months. There was a spiritual crisis of sorts, not threatening our marriage, but freaking us out. We went and visited my […]

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Eighty years ago, two women spent a year listening to God and wrote down their thoughts in a daily devotional published as God Calling, similar in style to the mega-successful Jesus Calling by Sarah Young in our day. Nobody except for the collaborator (A.J. Russell) knows their names. For their own reasons, they wanted to […]

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March 31, 2014

The Ultimate Prenup

Gary Thomas — 

One of my best friends (and co-author with me on the Sacred Search Couple’s Conversation Guide), Dr. Steve Wilke, once shocked a church when they asked him about pre-nuptial agreements before marriage. They all expected him, as a Christian writer and speaker and counselor, to come out strongly against them. He began by saying, “I’m […]

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One of the greatest challenges we face in fighting sin is to accurately call sin, sin. We like to dress it up, pretend it’s something different or at least “neutral.” Or we excuse it, as something wrongly done with perhaps good motives. In his marvelous book Renovation of the Heart (A book I wish every […]

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March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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Many years ago, our then four-year-old daughter belted out of our house on an Easter Sunday, her hair all done up like a little girl’s hair often is, her dress flying behind her, her white tights bunched up around her knees, trying unsuccessfully not to laugh because she knew I was so frustrated. She and […]

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March 18, 2014

The Ballet is Woman

Gary Thomas — 

There’s a saying that “the ballet is woman.” Male dancers recognize that their role is all about showcasing the female dancer’s beauty. In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker (who recently put together a documentary on the New York City Ballet), “When a male dancer is paired with a ballerina he can support, stabilize, lift […]

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March 13, 2014

Guantanamo Bay Diary #2

Gary Thomas — 

Because of the political issues involved, “Gitmo” has become synonymous in some circles as the worst of the United States’ foreign policy abuses. I stated last time that this is not and will never be a political blog. It’s focused on marriage, and this post no less than others. But spending time at Guantanamo did […]

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Lisa and I are familiar with landing in Houston and being immediately slapped by the heat as soon as we step off a plane, so it wasn’t a surprise when Guantanamo Bay welcomed us with the same courtesy. We were met by the chaplain, Baron Miller, who informed us that we were lucky to be […]

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