Archives For Marriage

Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. They’ve been together for 15 years, and it has taken Jason that long to realize that he and his wife’s vision of a successful marriage are worlds apart. Jason desires a certain kind of marriage that his wife, Maria, doesn’t. Have you ever […]

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November 11, 2013

Lust Casts a Wide Wake

Gary Thomas — 

I’ve noticed something in men who are mentally unfaithful to their wives; this is more of a spiritual observation and anecdotal so I might be totally off base. Tell me what you think. Men who mentally cheat on their wives (primarily with pornography as an aide) eventually display anger toward their wives. It may not […]

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“By the way, you spent eight thousand dollars today.” “Seriously?” I asked my wife. “Yeah. We paid off a college loan.” If you think kids are expensive when they’re babies, wait until they hit their late teens and early twenties. Even so, I think having kids is one of the best things men can do […]

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While “love” is something many people think they fall into, studies show that divorce is something we usually grow into. William Doherty, professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota, provides an insightful distinction between what he calls “hard reasons” and “soft reasons” that split couples up and lead to divorce. In Doherty’s […]

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Sometimes, I’m reading one of the Christian classics and I find myself saying, even out loud, “Ouch.” That happened to me once when I was spending time with John Wesley. His insight was so heavy and so unique, it just about knocked me out of my chair. In his essay on “perfection,” John Wesley (18th […]

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Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Conflict can be productive and fruitful and even help us grow. It can bring issues of blindness to the surface: “Really? That’s how you feel when I say that?” It can be the great revealer of past hurts: “That’s why you’re so sensitive […]

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October 21, 2013

A Recipe For A Holy Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

It’s so clear, so perfect, so complete. If you want a “prescription” or “recipe” for a Sacred Marriage, look no further than 1 Corinthians 16:13-14. Paul doesn’t limit his words to marriage, but when looked at in the context of marriage, it’s marvelous: “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be […]

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The great 19th century evangelist Charles Finney mourned long and hard when his wife died. She had been weak and ill for some time; Finney knew her passing was coming, and he labored long hours in prayer to surrender her to God, but when the day finally came that she went home to be with […]

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When the spider dropped in front of me, I killed it. Part of me hates doing this. Spiders don’t hurt anyone. In fact, they serve a good purpose—they kill other insects. Personally, I have nothing against spiders. But they can make webs. And they bother Lisa. She hates them. So I kill them. Because I’m […]

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I see it all the time. A woman comes off a relationship with a jerk or insensitive man who broke her heart, left her weeping in a mess on the floor, and then she comes across a somewhat boring but nice, stable Christian man and decides to marry him on the spot. A guy suffers […]

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