This is going to seem like an explicit post to some, a hurtful post to others, but it could be helpful to many, so I’m going to risk it. It won’t work for every marriage; it may even compound the hurt for some (because you’ve tried it and it backfired and emphasized rather than cured your problems), but for those it will help it’s just a simple reminder that can make such a big difference.
Wives, life gets busy. It gets complicated. It gets hurtful and harried and frustrating. You can’t dodge or fix every frustration, but there is a helpful friend to keep your marriage together and even growing ever more intimate in some difficult as well as boring times.
Make him want you.
Two to three times a month make it your supreme and deliberate marital goal that day to excite one thing in your husband. Make him want you.
In that way.
Start early in the day. Find ways to keep it boiling. Make it so that by the end of the day he can think of nothing else, but you, in that way.
Time wise, physical intimacy is a relatively small part of marriage. And I’m not talking about a daily change, so even in the most overwhelming of situations it can usually be done, if you want to make it happen. And when done, it will color every other day because he knows, after a while, it just may happen again. That swings some relational power back to you in a good way that helps him not take you for granted or forget you and in a way that will remind him why (though, of course this isn’t the only reason why) you mean so much to him.
I don’t know your husband so I can’t tell you how to do this, only as a reminder that it’s good to do this.
You know him. You know what gets him going. So use the information.
Make him want you.
Take all day to do it.
At least a couple, but preferably, a few times a month.
It can transform your marriage. It really can.