“But the angel said, ‘Do not be afraid. I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.’” Luke 2:10
I love to look at internet lists like “12 Best Christmas Gifts for Wives.” Lisa and I have been married for thirty years; sometimes, I need a little help to get creative.
In the midst of doing this, I try to remember the absolute best gift I can give my wife and kids: a heart that overflows with joy. We all know that Christmas isn’t about the shopping, the wrapping, the baking, or the decorating but don’t most of us let much of that squeeze out the one essential part of Christmas: joy?
In a Christmas Day sermon, Martin Luther proclaimed, “Whoever preaches [Christ] rightly, preaches the Gospel of pure joy.”
Charles Spurgeon preached for the heart, which is why he told his congregation, “I like to hear of overwhelming joy in the hearts of those who are God’s saints.” He had little patience for Christian parents who allowed the duty and responsibilities of life to overshadow the wonder and joy of the Christmas season: “Give me a religion that cheers my heart, fires my soul, and fills me with enthusiasm and delight, for that is likely to be the religion of heaven.”
Your kids won’t be led closer to the Lord and your spouse won’t re-fall in love with God by getting them a new video game or outfit. Their heart won’t be kick started when you find just the right decoration to put above the fireplace. Those are all fun things to do but the first thing to give to our families and to decorate our souls with is joy. Without it, Spurgeon said, we lose the most influential aspect of faith that we have: “If [unbelievers] could but even guess what are the secret joys of believers, they would give their eyes to share them with us. We have troubles, and we admit it; we expect to have them. But we also have joys in abundance.”
We could put it this way: if we’re not giving our kids a joy-filled home, we’re not giving them a truly Christian home. If we’re not giving them a day that showcases joy, we’re not giving them a truly Christian Christmas.
Let’s put joy first this holiday season. Ask yourself, and talk about this with your spouse: what will most serve our family’s joy this year? It may sound overly spiritual, but we all need to be reminded of our sin and God’s provision for our sin by sending His Son. There can be no joy when we live under condemnation. Do our kids know the Gospel? Have they received it? (This is the perfect time for family evangelism.) Do they need to be reminded of it? How can you do that in a creative way this Christmas?
Joy is also preserved when we refuse to let the lesser drown out the greater. Let’s be more concerned that our kids are mindful of Christ and His story when we take them to church rather than whether their hair is a bit mussed or their matching outfits don’t look quite right.
Finally, cut back on your schedule. It’s hard to know joy if we’re tired and run ragged. I’m serious, moms—your kids may be far better served if you start taking naps and buy a few less presents or hang a few less decorations. Nothing colors Christmas like a Christian woman filled with Christian joy.
This may sound harsh, but I believe it to be true: if Christian homes are not bastions of joy on Christmas day, we’ve failed the holiday. Even in the face of tragedy—a family member who has died over the past year—there can be joy (not giddiness, but joy) over Christ’s coming as it represents the promise of a future reunion. An ongoing spiritual struggle needn’t drown out our joy because we know that God sent the Christ child just when and where He was needed most—and He’s not going to hold out on Christ’s provision during our current need. I’m not talking about silly laughter—if you’re in a crisis, that’s asking far too much. But in the midst of sorrow, there can be a deep undercurrent of assurance and satisfaction that, in the light of eternity, every Christian always has a reason to smile, even in the face of pain.
I got to spend some time very recently with Saddleback Pastor Rick Warren, who lost his son last year. Two things struck me: here was a man who lives in tremendous pain, some of which will never go away this side of heaven, and yet he is also a man who lives with tremendous joy. It’s a wonder to witness firsthand, a man who so marvelously captures the Christian truth of certain hope in a fallen world.
You can celebrate Christmas without presents (many have). You can celebrate Christmas without turkey (vegans do it all the time) and you can even celebrate Christmas without watching football. But celebrating Christmas without joy? For a Christian, that just doesn’t make sense.