Archives For Communication

June 12, 2019

Beds!

Gary Thomas — 

Nicolas Rolin frolicked, adulterized, gambled, and even murdered his way through the fifteenth century until he looked mortality in the face and realized he was going to die sooner rather than later. Given that he had broken every one of the Ten Commandments at least once, the prospect of facing God terrified him. A priest […]

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Now that we’re empty nesters, Lisa travels with me on most of my trips, at least the pleasant ones. Winnipeg in February? Pass. New York City in the Fall? Book two tickets, please. In our new season of joint travel, Lisa had an uncanny ability to always turn the wrong direction coming out of the […]

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October 18, 2018

Don’t Be a Peg

Gary Thomas — 

Frederick Buechner is a brilliant writer who can jump between fiction and nonfiction like a champion American Ninja Warrior skips over a water obstacle. In his novel Godric (a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize), Buechner brilliantly makes us feel sorry for Richard the baker, who is married to a noxious woman: “There was Richard the […]

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This is the third post in an ongoing series featuring the message of Loving Him Well: Practical Advice on Influencing Your Husband. Since the book is written for wives, the excerpt will focus on wives first, but I’m adding a new section to each book excerpt afterwards that applies the same teaching to husbands.   […]

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August 27, 2014

When a Marriage Meets Malice

Gary Thomas — 

Is the current state of your marriage (or divorce) marked by increasing love or escalating malice? Marital malice in all its forms is about the most destructive malice that there is. The Bible uses some startling, even vulgar language to warn us about this serious trait. There are some truly horrendous images in the Bible—grotesque, […]

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  Have you ever experienced hurt, confusion, and loneliness as a result of a communication breakdown with your husband?  This is a guest post from author Sandy Ralya offering some suggestions based on a chapter from her book The Beautiful Wife.   Several years ago, my husband and I were driving down a country road […]

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April 7, 2014

God Oases

Gary Thomas — 

Up until I wrote this blog post, only two people, other than Lisa and me, knew this story, and one of them is dead. Lisa and I had been married for just a couple months. There was a spiritual crisis of sorts, not threatening our marriage, but freaking us out. We went and visited my […]

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Talking is one of the best ways to build intimacy as a couple. It is easy, however, to slip into “purposeless” talk or “utilitarian” talk (just going over what the kids are doing, what needs to be done around the house, etc.). That’s fine for many occasions, but to keep building intimacy, it’s helpful to […]

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Jason and Maria want something entirely different out of the same marriage. They’ve been together for 15 years, and it has taken Jason that long to realize that he and his wife’s vision of a successful marriage are worlds apart. Jason desires a certain kind of marriage that his wife, Maria, doesn’t. Have you ever […]

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