Archives For Christian Living

         There are two questions we can ask within marriage that will take us to two entirely different dimensions. We have to choose in which dimension we want to live. The two questions are these:             “How can I bless you?”             Or:             “How can I get my own way?”             If we live in […]

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April 21, 2014

Don’t Look Back

Gary Thomas — 

A relationship from my teen years still makes me wince whenever the girl’s name comes to mind. One day I was praying about looking her up to tell her how sorry I felt for how I acted over 25 years ago. One of my best friends adamantly opposed the idea.  In his experience from counseling, […]

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April 17, 2014

The Last Day of Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

“It is finished.” Perhaps the most glorious sentence ever uttered, at the end of Jesus’ crucifixion, can serve every marriage by teaching us to keep the last day of our marriage in mind. Jesus’ words declare with triumphant finality the completion of a passionate mission. In just three words, Jesus proclaims that He lived a […]

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April 14, 2014

Damned By Denial

Gary Thomas — 

What was the first thing that Adam and Eve did after they sinned? They both denied it. What did Cain do when confronted with his murder of Abel? He denied it. And what do we do, when marriage puts a spotlight on our sin? All too often, we play the same game and deny it, […]

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April 7, 2014

God Oases

Gary Thomas — 

Up until I wrote this blog post, only two people, other than Lisa and me, knew this story, and one of them is dead. Lisa and I had been married for just a couple months. There was a spiritual crisis of sorts, not threatening our marriage, but freaking us out. We went and visited my […]

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Eighty years ago, two women spent a year listening to God and wrote down their thoughts in a daily devotional published as God Calling, similar in style to the mega-successful Jesus Calling by Sarah Young in our day. Nobody except for the collaborator (A.J. Russell) knows their names. For their own reasons, they wanted to […]

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March 18, 2014

The Ballet is Woman

Gary Thomas — 

There’s a saying that “the ballet is woman.” Male dancers recognize that their role is all about showcasing the female dancer’s beauty. In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker (who recently put together a documentary on the New York City Ballet), “When a male dancer is paired with a ballerina he can support, stabilize, lift […]

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March 13, 2014

Guantanamo Bay Diary #2

Gary Thomas — 

Because of the political issues involved, “Gitmo” has become synonymous in some circles as the worst of the United States’ foreign policy abuses. I stated last time that this is not and will never be a political blog. It’s focused on marriage, and this post no less than others. But spending time at Guantanamo did […]

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Lisa and I are familiar with landing in Houston and being immediately slapped by the heat as soon as we step off a plane, so it wasn’t a surprise when Guantanamo Bay welcomed us with the same courtesy. We were met by the chaplain, Baron Miller, who informed us that we were lucky to be […]

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The dozen or so women clung to their men, and everyone knew why. Everyone gave them space. It was at the Denver Airport, during the height of casualties in the Iraq war. The military personnel were all wearing fatigues, and the tears being shed by their wives left us with no doubt as to where […]

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