Archives For Building Intimacy

March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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February 24, 2014

You Had Me at Jell-O

Gary Thomas — 

(This post is a book excerpt written by my friends, Paul and Virginia Friesen, who wrote The Marriage App) It was John and Wendy’s favorite vacation spot during their 38-year marriage: twice each year they would fly to Hawaii and rent a cottage or stay in a timeshare, sometimes alone, but often with their family. […]

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Talking is one of the best ways to build intimacy as a couple. It is easy, however, to slip into “purposeless” talk or “utilitarian” talk (just going over what the kids are doing, what needs to be done around the house, etc.). That’s fine for many occasions, but to keep building intimacy, it’s helpful to […]

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January 16, 2014

Mind Over Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

The old cliché, “stupid is as stupid does” is painfully true in marriage. We can’t be both stupid and happily married. If we want to take control of our marriages (in a good way), then we have to take control over our minds. We must conquer the lies that war against us, blunting our love, […]

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November 11, 2013

Lust Casts a Wide Wake

Gary Thomas — 

I’ve noticed something in men who are mentally unfaithful to their wives; this is more of a spiritual observation and anecdotal so I might be totally off base. Tell me what you think. Men who mentally cheat on their wives (primarily with pornography as an aide) eventually display anger toward their wives. It may not […]

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When the spider dropped in front of me, I killed it. Part of me hates doing this. Spiders don’t hurt anyone. In fact, they serve a good purpose—they kill other insects. Personally, I have nothing against spiders. But they can make webs. And they bother Lisa. She hates them. So I kill them. Because I’m […]

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The “secret” to a truly sacred marriage is proclaimed rather loudly in the book of Acts: “You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you…” (Acts 1:8) This isn’t a Pentecostal truth or even a charismatic truth. It is a Christian truth: we all need the empowering work of the Holy Spirit. “We […]

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