Archives For Building Intimacy

September 11, 2014

A New Perspective…

Gary Thomas — 

In a culture that celebrates young love, senior citizens can humble us with their depth of devotion. Sit back and enjoy a tender true story of a young doctor who discovered what over fifty years of faithful marriage can do to a man… (This is a guest post written by my friend Dr. Greg Bledsoe)  […]

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It sounds crazy, but the very traits that make you fall in love with someone can be the things that most irritate you once you marry. The difference between living with a quirk and occasionally visiting a quirk is huge. How can we re-fall in love with the person we married, learning to remember what […]

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A crippled, unassuming 17th century monk left behind a small collection of letters and a few conversations that eventually became a classic entitled Practicing the Presence of God.  People were drawn to Brother Lawrence’s divine friendship, the way he seemed to dwell in intimate union with his heavenly Father.  Though he was celibate his entire […]

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        Stubborn divorce rates proclaim that spouses often get bored with each other which, in a sense, is understandable.  There are movies that I love—but I don’t want to watch the same ones every weekend.  There are restaurants I enjoy dining in but except for Starbucks, I wouldn’t want to go there […]

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Are you as good of a spouse as you think you are? How do you know? A student in one of my classes at Western Seminary (Portland, OR), was challenged when we talked through this in class. He later shared his story (in written form allowing me to share it with others): Sacred Marriage served […]

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  Just two hours a week.  That’s all it takes to affair-proof and divorce-proof your marriage. After years of reading, writing, and speaking on marriage, and a few less years doing some pastoral counseling, I’ve identified two things that, when they are in place, can almost guarantee that your spouse won’t have an affair and […]

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March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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February 24, 2014

You Had Me at Jell-O

Gary Thomas — 

(This post is a book excerpt written by my friends, Paul and Virginia Friesen, who wrote The Marriage App) It was John and Wendy’s favorite vacation spot during their 38-year marriage: twice each year they would fly to Hawaii and rent a cottage or stay in a timeshare, sometimes alone, but often with their family. […]

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Talking is one of the best ways to build intimacy as a couple. It is easy, however, to slip into “purposeless” talk or “utilitarian” talk (just going over what the kids are doing, what needs to be done around the house, etc.). That’s fine for many occasions, but to keep building intimacy, it’s helpful to […]

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January 16, 2014

Mind Over Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

The old cliché, “stupid is as stupid does” is painfully true in marriage. We can’t be both stupid and happily married. If we want to take control of our marriages (in a good way), then we have to take control over our minds. We must conquer the lies that war against us, blunting our love, […]

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