What if God makes “art” out of our moments of brokenness, sin, mistakes, and even marital disasters?
Joe White is president of Kanakuk Kamps and founder of Kids Across America. He uses a word picture that I’ve found rather moving. He begins by saying that none of
God’s “paintings” are on canvas. “They’re all made of thousands of broken pieces, skillfully picked up and dusted off and soldered together into magnificent murals. The broken pieces are made of our hurts and hard times.”
I love this picture. Maybe the “broken glass” in your relationship is a time of poverty or joblessness. Maybe there’s a miscarriage, a family death, a sickness. Maybe there was an affair, a lapse into sin or addiction, a long “winter” of marital discontent.
These are all awful things, terrible things, but once they happen to both of you, they are a part of your story. They have shaped who you are as a couple. Without them, you wouldn’t be the couple you are. Would you rather be a couple without losing a child or facing that affair? Of course.
But God makes beautiful things out of broken things. He is the master at manufacturing amazing “stained glass windows”—pieces of broken glass that, on their own, look like disasters, but when grouped together by a skillful artist, actually create something that takes your breath away.
As a date night exercise, why not discuss with your spouse what you both think have been the most significant “broken pieces of glass” in your relationship? Have some tissues handy. Some of these broken pieces never stop hurting.
After admitting the hurt, talk about how those broken pieces are now part of the beauty of your marriage. You’re not saying you wished what happened had happened, or that you would want it to happen again. Together, standing in awe admitting, we hate what happened, and in many ways we hate it still, but look at what God has done through it. This is who we are now, and though “this” has been built on the back of some horrendous experiences, those experiences truly have shaped us and made us into what and who we are.
God is creating a stained glass window out of the brokenness and hurts in your relationship, your marriage, and your family. I just want you to start seeing it.