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March 25, 2014

Who Needs Handcuffs?

Gary Thomas — 

(Note: If your name is Allison, Graham, or Kelsey, and you typically call me “Dad,” I suggest you skip this blog post.) “Talk about world domination!” My wife had been in a busy season, so I purposefully had planned an evening I knew she would enjoy—dinner at a Jazz Club, followed by an evening of […]

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Many years ago, our then four-year-old daughter belted out of our house on an Easter Sunday, her hair all done up like a little girl’s hair often is, her dress flying behind her, her white tights bunched up around her knees, trying unsuccessfully not to laugh because she knew I was so frustrated. She and […]

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March 18, 2014

The Ballet is Woman

Gary Thomas — 

There’s a saying that “the ballet is woman.” Male dancers recognize that their role is all about showcasing the female dancer’s beauty. In the words of Sarah Jessica Parker (who recently put together a documentary on the New York City Ballet), “When a male dancer is paired with a ballerina he can support, stabilize, lift […]

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March 13, 2014

Guantanamo Bay Diary #2

Gary Thomas — 

Because of the political issues involved, “Gitmo” has become synonymous in some circles as the worst of the United States’ foreign policy abuses. I stated last time that this is not and will never be a political blog. It’s focused on marriage, and this post no less than others. But spending time at Guantanamo did […]

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Lisa and I are familiar with landing in Houston and being immediately slapped by the heat as soon as we step off a plane, so it wasn’t a surprise when Guantanamo Bay welcomed us with the same courtesy. We were met by the chaplain, Baron Miller, who informed us that we were lucky to be […]

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The dozen or so women clung to their men, and everyone knew why. Everyone gave them space. It was at the Denver Airport, during the height of casualties in the Iraq war. The military personnel were all wearing fatigues, and the tears being shed by their wives left us with no doubt as to where […]

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February 27, 2014

Every Affair is Intentional

Gary Thomas — 

Paul and Virginia Friesen are friends and co-workers in their ministry to married couples. I love their take on how every affair is an intentional affair. This is a guest post taken from their book, “The Marriage App.” The first commandment says, “You may have no other gods before me.”…God is not saying that He […]

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February 24, 2014

You Had Me at Jell-O

Gary Thomas — 

(This post is a book excerpt written by my friends, Paul and Virginia Friesen, who wrote The Marriage App) It was John and Wendy’s favorite vacation spot during their 38-year marriage: twice each year they would fly to Hawaii and rent a cottage or stay in a timeshare, sometimes alone, but often with their family. […]

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February 17, 2014

When Your Spouse Annoys You…

Gary Thomas — 

Demons may not live the truth, but many times, they can understand it. In C.S. Lewis’ classic book The Screwtape Letters, Screwtape, the mentor demon, writes to his protégé Wormwood, “When two humans have lived together for many years, it usually happens that each has tones of voice and expressions of face which are almost […]

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February 13, 2014

Divine Valentines

Gary Thomas — 

If you want to make this Valentines’ Day special, in addition to shopping for the lingerie and chocolate, spend some extra time worshipping God. It’s not that I have anything against chocolate or lingerie (especially lingerie), but nearly three decades of marriage has taught me that personal worship is an absolute must to sustain a […]

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