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December 5, 2019

The Bare Marriage Project

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I spent my honeymoon night in tears—because sex hurt. A lot. I had no idea what was wrong with me. It wasn’t supposed to be this painful! But I was married now, and I believed my husband needed sex and I had been taught that he wouldn’t feel love without it. So over the next […]

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March 20, 2019

No is a Beautiful Word

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My friend Kevin Harney got me to do something I’ve never done before. I was quite embarrassed about it, but it just happened. Kevin sent me an advanced copy of his book No is a Beautiful Word: Hope and Help for the Overcommitted and Occasionally Exhausted and asked me for an endorsement. This ended up […]

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  Professional counselor Debra Fileta offers some helpful advice this week for those who no longer find themselves attracted to their spouse. What does that do to the sexual relationship? How should we respond? Deb combines much real-world experience (working with numerous couples) and biblical insight to offer a workable plan. I hope you enjoy it, […]

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Due to a degenerative eye disease, I live with basically one eye. You wouldn’t know it looking at me, but an ophthalmologist explained to me that my left eye has reached the point where my brain doesn’t rely on it any more. What I see basically comes through my right eye.   I write with […]

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It’s hard to believe, but we’re near the end of 2017. It’s been a good year. 2016, on the other hand, was not my favorite. I put on a lot of weight, didn’t watch what I ate, and didn’t exercise on a consistent basis. I swept some unresolved conflict with my boss under the rug […]

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September 14, 2017

The Whole Story

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  We all know that marriage begins long before a woman walks down the aisle. The way she views the intimate aspects of marriage are influenced years and sometimes even decades before any man places a ring on her finger. Therefore, one of the best ways to help our daughters grow into vibrant women who […]

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Readers, When I was writing Cherish, I’d ask wives how they wanted to be cherished. If you poured a cup of coffee right away, it would be room temperature by the time most of them stopped talking. When I’d ask men how they like to be cherished, the most common answer was, “Do you want […]

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Drs. Steve and Rebecca Wilke are two dear friends who have raised two remarkable young men. Rebecca has worked on educational issues for decades and has written books for teachers. In this guest post, she talks to parents, urging those who have school children to be thoughtful about what’s happening in their community schools. Perhaps […]

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I (Patrick) have a bit of a reputation for running out of gas, perhaps because I once read an article that said gas pumps have more germs than a toilet seat. I don’t know how many germs that is, but it’s enough for me not to want to touch either one too often. Or maybe […]

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August 22, 2015

Finding the “Win-Win”

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  Too many of us think that anger is like flatulence: it’s an uncomfortable feeling that grows bigger and bigger, but if you just let it out, you’ll feel so much better. Anger doesn’t work that way. When we let anger fly–by yelling, or saying hurtful things–we often make a situation worse. And that’s because […]

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