Archives For Gary Thomas

This blog is not written for women in abusive marriages. The advice offered in these posts will challenge both husbands and wives, but the advice could be counter-productive if it is applied in an abusive relationship. Somebody could be beautiful, funny, a pleasure to be around, and even be active in their church but still […]

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January 16, 2016

Choosing Enthusiasm

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Choosing Enthusiasm One of the best gifts you can give your spouse doesn’t cost anything, it’s appropriate for literally every holiday, and you never have to wrap it. I’m talking about enthusiasm. Lisa and I look at food through two radically different lenses. I eat primarily because I hate being hungry, but food isn’t something […]

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January 9, 2016

He Lies

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He lies to you, all the time. Jesus called Satan “the Father of lies,” and if you want an abundant life and marriage, you have to discern those lies. Satan takes normal marital doldrums and turns it into the story of your life. “It won’t get better, it can’t get better. Your only hope is […]

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It’s a sobering thought, but it’s true: once a romantic relationship gets started between two believers there are only one of two options—you’re going to get married or you’re going to break up. Breakups are of course far more common, and January in particular is a huge month for relationship breakups so what are the […]

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December 23, 2015

Make God Happy

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“So we make it our goal to please Him…” 2 Corinthians 5:9 The large woman wearing a maid’s uniform walked into my hotel room and breathed a sigh of relief. “Why, it’s already almost clean!” she said. “And it smells good, too!” Before this encounter (years ago), I never thought of what those who clean […]

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December 16, 2015

Turtledove Love

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Turtledoves are perhaps most famous for their place in what has become a slightly obnoxious Christmas song: “On the first day of Christmas, my true love sent to me…” Outside of this song, turtledoves are known for two things: they mate for life (thus you almost always find them in pairs) they have no peripheral […]

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November 19, 2015

Make Me Laugh

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As we enter the holidays, here’s something to think about to inject new life into your marriage and family: Laugh together. Think about how to make each other laugh uproariously. Life is tough. Things get serious. If we stop laughing part of us dies. In a very real sense, to stop laughing is to stop […]

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“How do I endure being married to someone who isn’t as strong of a believer as I am?” This is a frequent question, most often asked by wives. John Wesley, the renowned 18th century teacher and founder of Methodism, might suggest you are in a particularly fruitful spiritual condition able to grow in ways you […]

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October 24, 2015

Please Don’t Marry Him

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My heart is grieving. I’ve received several Facebook messages from women who asked my advice about a dysfunctional dating relationship when The Sacred Search first came out several years ago. Each one noticed several “red flags” in their dating relationship and asked me if I thought they should be concerned. In every case, the answer […]

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October 17, 2015

6 Marks of Healthy Sexuality

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What are the marks of a healthy sexual relationship? It’s not inappropriate to ask what is most pleasurable or most exciting for married couples, but meaningful lovemaking is so much more than creating greater sexual arousal and climaxes. That’s why it’s not a bad idea to also ask “What are the markers of a wholesome […]

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