Archives For Gary Thomas

  An old, popular ditty says, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage!” Many women will tell you that along with the baby carriage comes fifteen pounds that might take them fifteen years to lose. My friend Karen Yates faced the challenge of postpartum weight gain following the births […]

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January 16, 2014

Mind Over Marriage

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The old cliché, “stupid is as stupid does” is painfully true in marriage. We can’t be both stupid and happily married. If we want to take control of our marriages (in a good way), then we have to take control over our minds. We must conquer the lies that war against us, blunting our love, […]

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One of the most popular quotes from The Sacred Search, a line that has been retweeted many times, is “If I’m going to make myself extremely vulnerable to someone, I want that person to be ruled by the Holy Spirit.” The farther you walk into dating, the more intimate it becomes. They get to know […]

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January 10, 2014

Love and Desire, pt. 3

Gary Thomas — 

[This is the final of a three part series on the difference between love and desire. You will benefit most from this post if you read the prior two first, in order. Part One. Part Two.] Now that we know the goal of marriage is love more than it is desire—not that desire is opposed […]

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January 8, 2014

Desire is Not Love, pt. 2

Gary Thomas — 

[In the previous post, we made a distinction between desire and love. If you haven’t read that post, please go back and read it before you read this one.] Since there is such a spiritual significance in understanding the difference between desire and love, the goal of our marriages must change accordingly. Most couples I […]

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January 6, 2014

Desire is Not Love

Gary Thomas — 

  When an immature 29 year old soul proclaims, “I love him; I really love him!” she may well be speaking with a five year old’s heart: “I love candy; I really love candy!” Our culture has made love and desire synonyms. As long as we mix up the two, we will never understand biblical […]

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January 2, 2014

How Would Jesus Date?

Gary Thomas — 

  Brain research suggests that romantic attachment—infatuation—is more powerful than the sex drive. Neurologically speaking, it’s easier to say no to physical sexual passion than it is to regulate the rush of emotional infatuation. Consider all the sermons you’ve heard as a single about reining in the sex drive, developing skills to say “stop” in […]

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December 30, 2013

Top Blog Posts From 2013

Gary Thomas — 

I started blogging in September of this year, and have had a good time getting to interact with my readers. My readers are what make this blogging experience worthwhile. Thanks for being a part of it with me. Here’s to another great year in 2014. Here are the top five blog posts from this year: […]

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December 26, 2013

Devotionals for the New Year

Gary Thomas — 

If marriage is sacred, then it will never be stronger than your walk with God. Walking with God is as far from a one-time decision as running a marathon is as far from sending in an entry form. Walking with God is built on a thousand daily steps in His direction. This post is designed […]

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December 23, 2013

Holy Gift-Giving

Gary Thomas — 

When renting a car with my wife one time I discovered that few things make a forty-something wife happier than warm car seats on a cold winter morning, so when it came time to get a new family vehicle, seat-warmers became a non-negotiable. As I tried to figure out what we could afford, my evangelical […]

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