Archives For Gary Thomas

“By the way, you spent eight thousand dollars today.” “Seriously?” I asked my wife. “Yeah. We paid off a college loan.” If you think kids are expensive when they’re babies, wait until they hit their late teens and early twenties. Even so, I think having kids is one of the best things men can do […]

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While “love” is something many people think they fall into, studies show that divorce is something we usually grow into. William Doherty, professor of family social science at the University of Minnesota, provides an insightful distinction between what he calls “hard reasons” and “soft reasons” that split couples up and lead to divorce. In Doherty’s […]

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Sometimes, I’m reading one of the Christian classics and I find myself saying, even out loud, “Ouch.” That happened to me once when I was spending time with John Wesley. His insight was so heavy and so unique, it just about knocked me out of my chair. In his essay on “perfection,” John Wesley (18th […]

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Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Conflict can be productive and fruitful and even help us grow. It can bring issues of blindness to the surface: “Really? That’s how you feel when I say that?” It can be the great revealer of past hurts: “That’s why you’re so sensitive […]

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The young woman’s plaintive question—“Don’t you want your daughters to be in love on their wedding day?”—offered shortly after I had just spoken on The Sacred Search, was one last attempt to hold on to a myth that she felt I had just shattered. I get it. Hollywood has created such a wildly romantic scenario, […]

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October 21, 2013

A Recipe For A Holy Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

It’s so clear, so perfect, so complete. If you want a “prescription” or “recipe” for a Sacred Marriage, look no further than 1 Corinthians 16:13-14. Paul doesn’t limit his words to marriage, but when looked at in the context of marriage, it’s marvelous: “Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be courageous; be […]

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The great 19th century evangelist Charles Finney mourned long and hard when his wife died. She had been weak and ill for some time; Finney knew her passing was coming, and he labored long hours in prayer to surrender her to God, but when the day finally came that she went home to be with […]

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When the spider dropped in front of me, I killed it. Part of me hates doing this. Spiders don’t hurt anyone. In fact, they serve a good purpose—they kill other insects. Personally, I have nothing against spiders. But they can make webs. And they bother Lisa. She hates them. So I kill them. Because I’m […]

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I see it all the time. A woman comes off a relationship with a jerk or insensitive man who broke her heart, left her weeping in a mess on the floor, and then she comes across a somewhat boring but nice, stable Christian man and decides to marry him on the spot. A guy suffers […]

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The “secret” to a truly sacred marriage is proclaimed rather loudly in the book of Acts: “You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you…” (Acts 1:8) This isn’t a Pentecostal truth or even a charismatic truth. It is a Christian truth: we all need the empowering work of the Holy Spirit. “We […]

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