Archives For Gary Thomas

A crippled, unassuming 17th century monk left behind a small collection of letters and a few conversations that eventually became a classic entitled Practicing the Presence of God.  People were drawn to Brother Lawrence’s divine friendship, the way he seemed to dwell in intimate union with his heavenly Father.  Though he was celibate his entire […]

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  Have you ever experienced hurt, confusion, and loneliness as a result of a communication breakdown with your husband?  This is a guest post from author Sandy Ralya offering some suggestions based on a chapter from her book The Beautiful Wife.   Several years ago, my husband and I were driving down a country road […]

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June 5, 2014

A Mom’s Eyes Opened

Gary Thomas — 

Liz cringed when her daughter lost the election to become student body president just as she had cringed when her daughter didn’t get chosen as a cheerleader.  But this rejection, one year after the election loss was more difficult still. in spite of high grades, a decent SAT score, and after carefully logging her volunteer hours […]

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        Stubborn divorce rates proclaim that spouses often get bored with each other which, in a sense, is understandable.  There are movies that I love—but I don’t want to watch the same ones every weekend.  There are restaurants I enjoy dining in but except for Starbucks, I wouldn’t want to go there […]

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  Singles, married people never argue with me when I quote James 3:2, that we all stumble in many ways.  You don’t have to convince anyone who is married that the human heart is evil and has a propensity to go astray.  We see the evil in our own hearts more than enough; sometimes, we […]

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May 26, 2014

Love as Tough as Tires

Gary Thomas — 

  Images matter, and how we imagine what love should look like has a huge impact on our satisfaction in marriage and our acceptance of what it is. My long-time friend, Pastor Dan Little (Binghamton, NY), mentioned a wonderful image in a sermon about biblical love.  I’d like to share it with you; I think […]

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Are you as good of a spouse as you think you are? How do you know? A student in one of my classes at Western Seminary (Portland, OR), was challenged when we talked through this in class. He later shared his story (in written form allowing me to share it with others): Sacred Marriage served […]

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         There are two questions we can ask within marriage that will take us to two entirely different dimensions. We have to choose in which dimension we want to live. The two questions are these:             “How can I bless you?”             Or:             “How can I get my own way?”             If we live in […]

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    (This is a guest post written by a good friend of mine, Dr. Steve Wilke. You can visit his ministry page at: www.sonkist.com )   While taping an upcoming vlog, my friend Gary Thomas and I discussed abuse in marriage. Sadly, its impact is far more pervasive than most would like to admit. […]

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  Just two hours a week.  That’s all it takes to affair-proof and divorce-proof your marriage. After years of reading, writing, and speaking on marriage, and a few less years doing some pastoral counseling, I’ve identified two things that, when they are in place, can almost guarantee that your spouse won’t have an affair and […]

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