Archives For Gary Thomas

  Guest post by Sandy Ralya.. Have you ever been desperate for a breakthrough in your marriage? I mean, the if-something-doesn’t-change-soon-I-don’t-think-I-can-go-on kind of breakthrough? Married at nineteen, I didn’t have a clue about how to deal with the emotional, verbal, and spiritual abuse I suffered. When my husband and I drove through our local McDonald’s, […]

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“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed. “We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life. My husband has just been awful. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.” You could have served […]

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Most married couples spend a good bit of time thinking, “How can we draw closer to each other?” Sometimes, we need to step back and ask a more fundamental question: “How can we encourage each other to get closer to God?” Doing that will help you get closer to each other. Spirituality isn’t the paint […]

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December 9, 2014

Joy to the World

Gary Thomas — 

“But the angel said, ‘Do not be afraid.  I bring you good news of great joy that will be for all the people.’” Luke 2:10 I love to look at internet lists like “12 Best Christmas Gifts for Wives.” Lisa and I have been married for thirty years; sometimes, I need a little help to […]

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December 4, 2014

Amateur Gods

Gary Thomas — 

One of the most difficult things I ever heard from God came when I was praying for someone I love deeply. I was willing to do almost anything to be the answer to the prayer I was praying: “What should I do?” “What can I say?” “How can I fix this?” And then I sensed […]

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Some of you have warm, fun, and loving extended families. I’m so grateful for the extended family God gave to Lisa and me on both sides. But many of you are about to spend a special holiday with a family that makes you prepare like you’re going into combat. Whether you love your extended family […]

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The vicar in a small British village had heard enough of Jean’s complaints. “All I’ve been hearing is continual carping about how awful it has been for you being married to Reg, how mean and bad-tempered he is. I’m fed up with hearing the same old thing week in and week out. I don’t want […]

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November 11, 2014

Artificial Intimacy

Gary Thomas — 

  Why do couples who are convinced they have found “the one” end up divorcing each other just a few years (or sometimes a couple decades) into their marriage? There was a time when they couldn’t imagine being apart for five hours; now they can’t bear the thought of being together for five minutes; what […]

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October 29, 2014

Father-in-Law

Gary Thomas — 

  A Prayer That Left Me Gloriously Ruined I was a young husband, and during an intense time of prayer, I sensed God telling me very directly that Lisa wasn’t just my wife, but she was also His daughter and I was to treat her accordingly. It was an intense application of 1 John 3:1: […]

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9:30 p.m. I have to get up at 4:30 a.m. for my Saturday run group. “So, what time are you going to be home tomorrow?” Lisa asks. “Let’s see. Run from 5:30 to 7, we’ll talk a bit afterwards, I’ll take a shower, stop at Starbucks, I’d say around 8:00.” “You don’t have to stop […]

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