Archives For Gary Thomas

Britney is in her early thirties and has mostly married friends. As a single, Britney told me she sees marriage from the perspective of what you gain, but almost all her married friends see marriage from the perspective of what they have lost. They seem frustrated with what their marriage isn’t, while Britney sees so […]

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March 26, 2020

For Such a Time as This

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A few weeks ago, a good friend of ours texted both Lisa and me to ask what was going on. She had had a terrifying dream about us the night before. “You and Lisa were in this tall tower,” she explained, “and this red plane was headed straight for you. I could see both you […]

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March 18, 2020

Send Us into the Pigs

Gary Thomas — 

Imagine you had once looked upon the unvarnished glory of God—not with human eyes, but with angelic ones. You were one of the angels who could dwell in the direct presence of God without being burnt up by His light, power, and glory. For whatever reason, you followed Satan and joined in a rebellion against […]

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When Kevin Miller asked his future wife Karen to marry him, her response was a quick and enthusiastic yes. Karen would later admit that perhaps she could have given a little more thought to such a monumental life decision: “When Kevin popped the question no one asked us a bigger question: ‘Why do you want […]

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What if one of the things we need is something we don’t want? One of the things I love about marriage is that it can lead us to places where we will be all but forced to rely on God like we never have before. My friend Rett gulped deeply when the doctor told him […]

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February 26, 2020

What God Asks of Husbands

Gary Thomas — 

My love for Scripture is matched only by my love for Jesus, and the love of one is the expression of my love for the other. Everything I aspire to be as a husband is because of what the Bible calls me to be. And since Jesus was never married, I have to take the […]

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February 19, 2020

Free for the First Time

Gary Thomas — 

Have you ever kept a toxic person in your life because you didn’t want to hurt their feelings? It’s almost comical when you think about it—they’re terrorizing you, but you still don’t want to offend them. I received the following message from a reader of When to Walk Away, and it’s just the kind of […]

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On Valentine’s Day, perhaps millions of men will get to see their wives wearing something they’ve never worn before and the husbands will be thrilled. Not too many men can pull off the same effect. I’ve never seen anything marketed to men in this regard that doesn’t seem cheesy and that doesn’t make me want […]

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Our friends started speaking even before we sat down at the restaurant. We hadn’t seen them for a number of months, and the wife had obviously been saving this up: “We know exactly what your next book needs to be!” I hear this statement all the time, but their exuberance made me curious, so I […]

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Caveat: This blog post is for those in relatively healthy, perhaps difficult, but not abusive relationships. I was five thousand miles away, in a foreign country, without a phone in my hand, and I was arguing with Lisa. No, she couldn’t hear me. In fact, she was probably sleeping. Just because you’re not with your […]

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