September 1, 2015

The Only Man in the World

Gary Thomas — 

Women, the door to true happiness in marriage—the key to becoming the most pleased and happiest of wives—is to begin viewing your husband as Adam, the only man in the world. When you get married, you agree (consciously or not) to a “commitment of contentment.” You forever reset the boundaries for what makes you content. […]

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August 27, 2015

The Only Woman in the World

Gary Thomas — 

Men, if you would like to have superlative satisfaction in your marriage, if you would enjoy a love for your wife that has no comparison, go back with me to the beginning of time—when Adam walked the earth by himself with God. Adam watched little animals and bigger animals, he discovered a wide variety of […]

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August 22, 2015

Finding the “Win-Win”

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  Too many of us think that anger is like flatulence: it’s an uncomfortable feeling that grows bigger and bigger, but if you just let it out, you’ll feel so much better. Anger doesn’t work that way. When we let anger fly–by yelling, or saying hurtful things–we often make a situation worse. And that’s because […]

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Victoria (not her real name) is married to a selfish spouse. She prays for him. She encourages him. She seeks ways to serve him. Her husband soaks it up but hasn’t learned to give half as much in return. If I give examples I may blow her cover, but most of you know marriages like […]

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“Faithful” isn’t the most exciting of words. It’s kind of boring. You won’t read of a Nicholas Sparks’ hero telling his girlfriend, “I just want to be faithful to you my entire life.” A movie won’t raise a crescendo of music as one lover tells another, “You’re so faithful. So faithful.” We relish and cry […]

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“Parenting” begins with something we call “labor” and the work never ends for at least two decades. In many ways, “parenting” and “working” are synonyms. You can’t stop being a parent when your kids are young, so how can the two of you possibly enjoy a Sabbath? Unless you have a nanny, you obviously can’t […]

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One hundred and eighty degrees is how hot I like my chai tea lattes, and it’s also the difference between what I initially thought my greatest need in life is compared to what God thinks it is. Most of us, I believe, are eager to get married because we think our greatest need is to […]

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You can read all the “how to” books you want. You can apply all the fun little intimacy exercises, burn through all the clever conversation starters, or exhaust half a dozen “date night” idea books. And I’m not suggesting you don’t. What I am suggesting is that most all of the marital wisdom you need […]

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  What causes you to love your spouse? Is it her grace? His kindness? Her strength? His humor? That she’s such a good mom? That he’s an unusually involved father? All of these are inferior reasons and inferior loves. If you love your spouse because she is kind, you love kindness, not your spouse. If […]

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July 1, 2015

Sex Isn’t Optional

Gary Thomas — 

  “Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, […]

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