One hundred and eighty degrees is how hot I like my chai tea lattes, and it’s also the difference between what I initially thought my greatest need in life is compared to what God thinks it is. Most of us, I believe, are eager to get married because we think our greatest need is to […]

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You can read all the “how to” books you want. You can apply all the fun little intimacy exercises, burn through all the clever conversation starters, or exhaust half a dozen “date night” idea books. And I’m not suggesting you don’t. What I am suggesting is that most all of the marital wisdom you need […]

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  What causes you to love your spouse? Is it her grace? His kindness? Her strength? His humor? That she’s such a good mom? That he’s an unusually involved father? All of these are inferior reasons and inferior loves. If you love your spouse because she is kind, you love kindness, not your spouse. If […]

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July 1, 2015

Sex Isn’t Optional

Gary Thomas — 

  “Since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, […]

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June 25, 2015

God is in the Room

Gary Thomas — 

Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even […]

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Most of us, whether we realize it or not, evaluate our marriages almost every day.  If we’re in a social situation, we tend to wonder, “How does our marriage measure up to theirs?” When we’re by ourselves, the evaluation is often along the lines of, “Am I happier today than I was yesterday?” or “Am […]

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Rain is going to fall on your marriage; it’s not a matter of if, it’s a matter of when. Which means, you better have a spiritual umbrella nearby. One husband wrote to me, furious that his libido is “twenty times” that of his wife. A wife is upset that her husband has a more intimate […]

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June 10, 2015

Fire Up Your Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

Most of us who have iPhones love them, but after a year, the problem with a smart phone is that the battery gets weaker and weaker. It is glorious in the first six months when you plug your phone in at night and don’t even think about power levels until the next evening. But at […]

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It was chilling when I read a book written three decades ago that quoted a (now dead) author who said, “The problem with Christians today is that nobody wants to kill them.” No Christian writer would dare utter those words today. Jesus’ prophecy is now all too true, worldwide: “Then they will hand you over […]

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 Is It Selling Out to Marry Someone I’m Not Infatuated With? By Debra K. Fileta, M.A., LPC I’ve been dating this wonderful girl for about two months now. She has everything that I’m looking for, including my core values (born again, conservative, doesn’t drink, wants to strive for purity, etc.) And she is gorgeous! What […]

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