September 11, 2014

A New Perspective…

Gary Thomas — 

In a culture that celebrates young love, senior citizens can humble us with their depth of devotion. Sit back and enjoy a tender true story of a young doctor who discovered what over fifty years of faithful marriage can do to a man… (This is a guest post written by my friend Dr. Greg Bledsoe)  […]

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September 3, 2014

Make Him Want You…

Gary Thomas — 

This is going to seem like an explicit post to some, a hurtful post to others, but it could be helpful to many, so I’m going to risk it.  It won’t work for every marriage; it may even compound the hurt for some (because you’ve tried it and it backfired and emphasized rather than cured […]

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August 27, 2014

When a Marriage Meets Malice

Gary Thomas — 

Is the current state of your marriage (or divorce) marked by increasing love or escalating malice? Marital malice in all its forms is about the most destructive malice that there is. The Bible uses some startling, even vulgar language to warn us about this serious trait. There are some truly horrendous images in the Bible—grotesque, […]

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Sometimes those we love most either get in a rut and seem unable to change or they refuse to change. Often we respond by “doubling down” and tirelessly try to change them by our own pleading and actions. But what if we are part of the problem? What if God has other ways to bring […]

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I saw this list on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk website; there wasn’t a button to share it, so I’m just co-opting it for a post (it’s from his book, Love for a Lifetime). When I see a list like this I often think, “What would I say differently?”  In this case, I found myself […]

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What would you think of a spouse who held something in their hand that their spouse desperately wanted, and that the spouse holding it didn’t even really need, but out of carelessness, malice or apathy the spouse holding it refused to hand it over? Sounds awful, doesn’t it? Is it possible that we’re that spouse? […]

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August 2, 2014

The Root of Your Love

Gary Thomas — 

The Bible’s depiction of true love is so astonishingly unselfish, we may not even realize how much selfishness we take for granted and are blinded two. Two men—Charles Finney and John Gossip—had a wake-up call when their wives died and they realized the true root of biblical love. The lesson God taught Charles Finney The […]

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A good marriage requires lots of love but it also, surprisingly enough, requires a certain amount of hatred.  Your willingness to hate and to give yourself over to a holy hatred will serve your marriage. How the Bible puts it: “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil.” (Proverbs 8:13) Those who have a […]

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Marriage and family life—if done well, and if our relationships are increasing in intimacy and spiritual fruitfulness—take so much thought and concentration that we need to keep our minds fresh and focused. If we don’t preserve our emotional and mental energy for our marriage and family, we can be distracted from what is truly important […]

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How do you know if your marriage is pleasing to God and that you’re holding up your responsibility as a spouse?  The surprising teaching of Scripture is that it’s not by comparing yourself to your spouse (how well you love compared with how well they love)—it’s by comparing yourself now with yourself last year. Increasing […]

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