April 17, 2015

Hating Love

Gary Thomas — 

The most damaging instance of “identity theft” is when hate masquerades as love. I see it all the time, particularly in dating relationships. A young man “falls in love” with a woman, woos her until he has monopolized her social calendar and then weeks or months later, drops her. Once she has abandoned everything for […]

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“Why is it always on us?” The leader of the wives’ study group looked at Lisa and me, explaining that after reading numerous books on marriage together, it always seemed to come down to the wives being the ones to set the relationship right. All of these women had read many books on marriage. At […]

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April 7, 2015

Absolute Marriage

Gary Thomas — 

A simple spiritual practice can revolutionize who you become in your marriage and parenting. A short, half-an-hour a day exercise will help usher God’s presence into your life and relationships in a very practical way. This spiritual practice sprang from a powerful (but not perfect) movement of God that swept the world in the early […]

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“About the ninth hour Jesus cried out in a loud voice, ‘Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani?—which means, ‘My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?’”  Matthew 27:46 Charles Spurgeon (1834-1892) insists that every believer—every single one of us—will pass through a season like that of Christ on the cross: when God seems far away, and […]

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Dr. Crawford Lorritts Jr.’s father was dying. Crawford slept in a nearby bedroom when he awoke at 1:30 a.m. He heard his father saying, “Oh, Sylvia, I’m so sorry. I couldn’t make it. I’m so sorry.” Crawford Lorritts Sr. had had a “bathroom accident.” Crawford Jr. listened to his mom say, “That’s okay, Crawford, that’s […]

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One of my close friends, Dr. Mike Dittman, recently challenged me with a profound statement: “Gary,” he said, “God doesn’t care about shells; He cares about the people in the shells.” Mike was referring to churches, but let’s apply this to marriage. Keep in mind, Mike is ardently pro-local church. His ministry is singularly focused […]

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March 19, 2015

Bachelor Disaster

Gary Thomas — 

It was almost as painful as watching a man slowly bleed to death; instead, I was watching a marriage die before it had even begun. The Bachelor wanted to be known as a good guy. He was in a ridiculous and silly situation (trying to artificially choose a wife while simultaneously dating 25) but even […]

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Some of you brush the teeth of your own worst enemy, every day. This blog is focused on marriage and family life, but knowing how God sees you is central to your ability to love as a spouse or parent. Some of you are so hard on yourselves you’ve essentially become an enemy to your […]

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Before you read any further, think of the three best artists of all time: any country, any century, any medium. Got them in mind? I’ll bet ninety percent of you thought of Michelangelo. It might surprise you that Michelangelo thought of himself in rather limited terms. There remains only one truly famous Michelangelo painting (the […]

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I’m fully aware that my books may not seem as practical as other marriage books, or that that this blog doesn’t always dish out the very helpful “how-to” tips that so many other blogs focus on. It makes me a bit insecure at times; I could sound lost in the clouds to many people, like […]

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